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Thursday, December 18, 2008

Through A Rapist's Eyes

A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed . They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair . Women with short hair are not common targets.

2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who's clothing is easy to remove20quickly. Many of them carry scissors around specifically to cut clothing.

3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through their purse, or doing other activities while walking because they are off-guard and can be easily overpowered.

4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early morning, between 5:00 a..m. and 8:30 a.m.

5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked is grocery store parking lots.. The number two : office parking lots/garages. Number three : public restrooms.

6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to another location where they don't have to worry about getting caught.

7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.

8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands. Keys are NOT a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you're not worth it.

10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are : If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it?, or make general small talk : 'I can't believe it is so cold out here,' 'We're in for a bad winter.' Now you've seen their face and could identify them in a line-up; you lose appeal as a target.

11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell STOP! or STAY BACK! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes), yell I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the Arm (between the elbow and armpit) OR in the upper inner thigh VERY VERY HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it - it hurts.

14) After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble and he's out of there..

15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts!!! You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do : The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do!

2. Learned this from a tourist guide in New Orleans : If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you....chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won't see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc, and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc.) DON'T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.

a. If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO NOT DRIVE OFF, repeat : DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and speed into anything, wrecking the car. Your Air Bag will save you. If the person is in the back seat they will get the worst of it. As soon as the car crashes bail out and run. It is better than having them find your body in a remote location.

5 A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot or parking garage :

A.)Be aware : look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side floor, and in the back seat.

B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.


C.) Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out.

IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is especially true at NIGHT!)

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times. And even then, it most likely WILL NOTbe a vital organ. RUN, preferably in a zigzag pattern!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic : STOP! It may get you raped or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well-educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked 'for help' into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

9. Another Safety Point : Someone just told me that her friend heard a crying baby on her porch the night before last, and she called the police because it was late and she thought it was weird. The police told her 'Whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.'

The lady then said that it sounded like the baby had crawled near a window, and she was worried that it would crawl to the street and get run over. The policeman said, 'We already have a unit on the way, whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.' He told her that they think a serial killer has a baby's cry recorded and uses it to coax women out of their homes thinking that someone dropped off a baby. He said they have not verified it, but have had several calls by women saying that they hear baby's cries outside their doors when they're home alone at night.

Please pass this on and DO NOT open the door for a crying baby --- This should be taken seriously because the Crying Baby theory was mentioned on America's Most Wanted this past Saturday when they profiled the serial killer in Louisiana I'd like you to forward this to all the women you know. It may save a life. A candle is not dimmed by lighting another candle.. I was going to send this to the ladies only, but guys, if you love your mothers, wives, sisters, daughters, etc., you may want to pass it onto them, as well.

17 comments:

Anonymous said...

Thanks for the advice. SU police reported that a female student saw a prowler on her porch over on Pinehurst within the last few days. There have been several reports of suspicious men in the area around the university in the last couple of months. It is kind of freaking me out.

Anonymous said...

Joe last night after getting off the blogg i decided to go to bed and wait for my wife to get home from work around 11:15, when shes not here I generally keep all the lights off and turn the heat down just to try to ease my electric bill some. Last night i was watching tv and only had the rear exterior light on so she could see and get into the house safely. Well when she came home in our circle driveway in her headlights their was what she described as a very tall, very skinny blonde haired man standing in the rear of our house(70/YARDS OFF ROAD) about 6 or 7 feet from our master bedroom window, she freaked out and backed the car up a bit to throw the headlights on him and he bolted. She came in crying and naturaly upset and shaking. I grabbed my boots and my a.r. and ran outside, i searched everywhere around the house and yard, i fired off a clip into the ground so if he was still in ear distance he would get the point that i kill ya. Everyone in this area should be on high alert for this carachter. Very Very shetchy

(Providence church road delmar delaware).

Anonymous said...

Doug and others. A security system is OK in my book, but if you have zips sneaking THAT close into your wire, contact Ms. Lugo the next time you see a lab/shepherd looking for a good home. Ironically, if you read this same article, some of the facts/tips can be transposed to the "bully" situation. Bullies/criminals are WEAK LOSERS. They will not take on me or you hand to hand, but will go after a soccer mom/vulnerable kid. Canine senses would have picked up on this cat's unsavory odor long before he got to your driveway...and I still have an ongoing offer for any criminal trying to get to my front door. The street is 40 yards from my front porch. I recall Deion Sanders setting the standard running it in like 4.2......trust me, my hound covers it in LESS than 4. Anybody feel lucky?

Anonymous said...

Doug,

I hope you made a police report--if not, do it now. You may think you don't need to since you took care of it, but it is really important that the police department start a file on this guy right away.

Anonymous said...

Reese the dog was the first thing I thought about this morning, ours died about a year ago. The neighbors have two but they didnt alert on anything. Ilooked in the landscaping outside our master bedroom window and you can definitly see where it was all pushed around. Freaks me out more today after it had time to sink in. Could of been a peeper or could of been the next ted bundy, who knows. Im gonna let all the neighbors know when they get home from work this evening.

Anonymous said...

11:17 My wife and Iwere just talking about that, I am going to call them right now, no sense coming out now but at least they will be aware. I would feel like shit if I didnt report it and somebody got hurt by this freak.

Anonymous said...

Doug. So sorry about your friend...do yourselves and a shelter dog a favor and open your heart again-your doggie would want you to do this. Also submit the police report as many times as you need to to set a "paper trail" that you have done what you could to involve law enforcement....just in case you need to squeeze off a couple if he comes back again a little down the road

Anonymous said...

Well this is reasurring, 15 minutes trying to contact D.S.P. and their machine tells you all our circuits are busy try again later, if this is an emergency call 911. Ill keep trying, Im sure a circuit will become availiable soon. Talking the wife into another dog may be a much harder task.

Anonymous said...

Doug,

You are doing a really good thing by notifying the police--good job.

Anonymous said...

Two more trys and now the operator tells you this service has been diconnected. I called from a land line and dialed 1 (302). That shits crazy.

Anonymous said...

Doug. Reese Bobby was involved in "intelligence." The key is not telling her YOU want a dog; you have to subtlely tell her how hard you are trying to look out for her, how unsafe last night's situation was/could have been and how little the police are meeting you half way by even answering the phones and such...guide her to the point where SHE makes the suggestion that a dog might do the trick-then smile and just let her take all the credit for your idea. Never take on your wife, or an entrenched tank column, with a head-on assault-sometimes a patient, guerilla campaign is best!!!! {It also couldn't hurt to keep a poster or two of puppies lying around the house when debating last-minute Christmas ideas}.

Anonymous said...

I had not heard of the crying baby on the porch trick.Thank you for the heads up.

About a year ago I had a black man come to my door around 11:20 pm.He did not knock, but was watching me while I was doing my days business on my computer. He then began to tap very lightly on the glass.I wasn't sure what the tap was since my two dogs were not alerted.Finally after hearing the tap again I went to the door.There was this man. He proceded to first inform me he had been watching me and then stated that his child had azthma.(sorry bout the spelling , I don't have it)He said that his child was having a attack ,the medicine cost $47.50 and he did'nt have enough to buy some.I was still surprized at his telling me he was watching me when my wife busted the door wide open and set my dogs off.She hollored "what do you want" and the guy replyed that he must be bothering us and that he would leave.Then off he went.Because of the time at night it was I was very tired. A few minutes after he left and my chastizing my wife for making such a foolish act for opening the door wide , I began to think how odd for him to choose my house.I am in the middle of the road I live on. I then slipped on my pants and shoes and took out after him. But he was no wear to be found. I circled three blocks and it was as if he disappeared . But this azthma con really was a genius idea in distracting me, as well as the bold comment of watching me threw my window. I am sure that he was feeling out the situration to maybe do a home invasion. And decided with my two dogs and a "crazy" house wife that the risk was to great.

I just want others to be aware incase this fellow trys this same gig on them. the weirdest part is that earlier that same day a woman hit me up for the very same con.I didn't have any money and was working when she approached me.What are the odds?

People should be very careful.Its not as safe as the "old" days.

Anonymous said...

Is this through Bubba's and Dinglebarrie's eyes? They have been raping the tax payers for several years now.

Anonymous said...

I just wanted to say that numbers 14 15 and 16 arent going to work. they might sound good in a woman's self-defense class but they won't work against a big dude who is fighting back. otherwise they would just pinch each other in the arms in UFC.

the best thing to do, if you have to actually fight a man, is try to hit him in the groin as fast and hard as you can, but don't stop there.

that will only stun him and make him angry. you have to hit him again. you don't need to know a tae-kwon-doe elbow just go with your instincts and hit him really hard. then run run run.

Anonymous said...

When I was in the sales field, we took a class on self defense.
One of the other things the officer told us to do is IF the attacker gets you on the ground on your back, reach up to his face and put your thumbs into the inner part of his eyes and press hard inward and out towards the temples.
You will pop his eyeballs right out of his head.
I know it sounds gross, but he said it works. That man would never attack another woman.

Anonymous said...

Some self defense classes tell you NOT to go for the groin because your attacker is expecting it and he possibly would be able to grab your leg and flip you possibly seriously hurting you with a head injury.

Anonymous said...

ok well it isnt going to be as easy as kicking a dummy because a guy can block but what can you do? buy a stun gun i guess.