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Wednesday, September 21, 2011

Can I Sue The 'Other Woman'?

My husband and I are in marriage counseling because of an affair he had with a woman he used to work with (fortunately, she no longer works there). He insists that she came on to him first, and that he initially wasn’t interested but that she kept persisting and he eventually gave in. A friend of mine who saw them together at a bar when I was back East for a family visit tipped me off, and my husband admitted he had been seeing her for a couple of weeks. Although the counseling has been going fairly well, I’m still angry and hurt over the affair, and I don’t know if our marriage will ever be the same. My question is: can I sue this woman for the damage she caused to our marriage, or at least for the costs of the counseling? I think it’s wrong that she should walk away scot-free.

8 comments:

Anonymous said...

you can sue anybody for anything, however plan to lose again. Dump your husband if you feel the need or get very even, have an affair with someone or even one of his friends, that usually works.

Anonymous said...

Stooping to the level of someone else only creates more pain always take the high road.

Anonymous said...

#1 your husband is still feeding you bs with the "she came after me" crap. If he chooses to stick to this story, than you are better off leaving because he's still the same liar he was the day before he got caught cheating.

#2 a court decision isn't going to do a thing to heal the emotional pain you understandably feel.

Anonymous said...

Take the high road. Caboot him from your life. Cut him out. Sounds like they deserve each other. And remember, a relationship based on an affair seldom lasts once the fun and games end. This is feeding his ego right now, and as long as you try to keep him, he will love the tug of war game. Kick him to the curb and do it with a smile.

Anonymous said...

The emotion of jelousy is a total waste of your time and energy. Get rid of the husband and put your energy into something positive and powerful..... Your new life!

Anonymous said...

takes two to tango

Anonymous said...

LOL YOU PROBABLY CAN BUT YOU WILL WASTE TIME AND MONEY DOING SO. I can tell you from a mans perspective, if he had no interest in her he would not have had the affair. You should sue your husband, its called a divorce. Your right your marrige will never be the same, but again she has no legal obligation to your marrige. But your husband does, so if you are going to sue someone make it him.

Anonymous said...

Unfortunately it has been my experience that once a spouse cheats, that inappropriate behavior will repeat...so leave him and be happy that you have a new chance at happiness. Learn to take care of yourself and children, if any, then you will be able to establish a true giving and loving relationship with someone who appreciates you.