Ladies & Gentlemen, while many continue to make attempts at fundraising for Sarah Foxwell's siblings, we have come to learn the Family has YET to change over the Bank Account at the Bank of Willards to a Trust Fund, as promised.
In fact, we've even been told that Pickles has yet to make their deposit to this account because the Grandparents have apparently not returned phone calls to transfer the account.
If you'll recall, we at Salisbury News refused to participate until we were assured this money would NOT go back to the Mother or Father. We did get a confirmation the account was going to become a Trust Fund and quite frankly it has not to this date.
It has been reported that any one of the people on that account can write checks off that account and my hat is tipped to Pickles for reassuring the security of those who made donations get their money exactly where it was intended.
That being said, ANY fundraising, rubber bracelets, or events should be done with the understanding that your money could be blown any which way those people on that account see fit.
If you knew the Mother and Father's history, I'm confident you'd reconsider making any further investment as it is my opinion you'd be putting good money after bad money. We have made the necessary phone calls to the proper people to make sure that this money is in fact secured into a Trust Fund and anything less IMHO would be fraudulent.
The Family represented the money would go to an education trust fund and by golly that's where it better go. We'll keep you posted just as soon as we receive word.
DelMarVa's Premier Source for News, Opinion, Analysis, and Human Interest Contact Publisher Joe Albero at alberobutzo@wmconnect.com or 410-430-5349
46 comments:
Its such a shame that this tragedy that happened to this little girl has turned into a bash the family event. I dont know the family, but know the pain i would be going through right now if i lost my child in such a tragic way, and to have to see the terrible comments that news stations and blogs are putting up about them is just un called for. I just have to wonder how Sarah would feel about you guys making remarks and comments about her mother or father if she were around to defend them. God Bless, and forgive everyone that continues to try to embarass this family after what has happened to them. Maybe the history that you speak about is true, but maybe, just maybe these are good people moving forward after such a tragic event happened. Just a shame
5:54 - The truth hurts.
Let's get something very clear here. I think it's very clear that we ALL feel pain and sorrow towards what happened to little Sarah.
However, it is my responsibility with this Blog as we reach out for help and support to be HONEST with each and every one of you as to what it going on in situations like this one.
The Mother AND Father are NOT what you might call responsible parents.
Again, since I am the one putting the information out there about the Bank of Willards, I believe I owe it to my readers to be well aware of what tey're getting into. The Grandparents need to get off their rear ends and fulfill what they had promissed to ALL of the people who made donations.
Once that is achieved we will again support their efforts.
Anonymous 5:54 pm - Good people raise their children !! enough said
Joe, isn't the CD's your pushing also going to this trust fund? Yet you supported them and not the people that were doing the ribbons who stated the money wasn't going to the family. Just confused...
anonymous 6:29, aka, JT, (just curious) fortunately the money raised from that is going through Pickles as well, so we're safe.
Nice try though.
Joe, I am not JT. I was just confused on your stand so I asked.
If you're not JT, please forgive me. I have been bombarded with negative comments these past few days and he/they just love attacking Posts like this one.
I happen to know the paternal grandparents (long time friends of my parents from back in the day) and they are not part of this nonsense. They are still trying to pick up the pieces of their lives and move on. They also are WELL AWARE that their son should NOT get ahold of this money because of his history of drug issues. Just maybe, the family is trying to figure out how to get the ball rolling and who they can trust over something so very important for Sarah's siblings. Maybe the residents can suggest helpful advise or personal recommendations instead of attacks. I don't know this to be a fact but it's sure better than making them feel worse for floundering about a topic they know nothing of...
countrygirl@heart
Countrygirl, I am not, (so you know) attackeng them in any way, shape or form. I'm sure you mean others but first of all, the Father is a drunk, period. I have not heard anything about HIM being involved with drugs.
If you know the Family as well as you say, then you know he just got out of Rehab and hasn't been seen since he got out Monday. Another bad sign.
The Grandmother on the Mother's side is very controlling. Perhaps she means well but she has been the stumbling block in doing the right thing all along.
If she thinks she's going to win this battle over the money, she's absolutely wrong.
This is about the KIDS, not the adults. I could give a rats a$$ about the parents or the Grandparents. Never met them, don't care to. We ALL got involved because we were concerned about the childrens welfare. Clearly, (with all due respect) the Grandparents didn't do a very good job raising their children, hence the Aunt raising their Children and Grandchildren. Mind you, I believe there's something like FIVE different Fathers to 7 kids, enough said.
It has also been reported that Jennifer, (the mother) is now considering trying to get custody of her children. I'd like to see just what Judge would allow such a ridiculous thing, time will tell.
Anyhow, it is my intent to protect your money/investment. Anyone else pimping fundraisers for the Family and not the children is a fool. That's my take on it anyway and I put my name to it.
Maybe the coming snowstorm this Saturday will prevent the mother from spending money at Station 7.
WOW !
I mean really lets be honest here....... I have known this family for a long time and I think everyone has had there moment to point the fingers and play the blame game but in the end its not going to bring Sarah home. I really feel people should just stop this family NEVER asked for your money. If you offered your money to help them out in this rough time that was from your kind heart.This family wasent able to return to work for a little while but that dosent mean their bills didnt pile up.......even through a tragic loss life still has to go on.... so I relly feel everyone should stop and leave them alone.... This isnt helping any one get through this..... They have so much on them and noone knows how we would react in this situation....Just becasue this family hasent made the best choices for them selves dosent make them less of a person. We all have a past and Im sure we dont want it blasted for all to see..... that family loved Sarah and all her sibilings. so for once Im asking you to think how you would handle things if your child was ripped from your hearts and then the town one min is on your side and then turns on you. I mean come one enough is enough...... Let them be..... Let them moarn in peace. May god bless you all and may god contuine to give this family the strenght to get through this tough time.
Thank you
Renee
Renee, let me explain it this way then.
IF I had any idea a single penny would go towards either piece of sh!t parent, I would have exposed BOTH of these scumbags right from day one.
I kept quiet, (out of respect for Sarah's loss) but the games end right here and now. Do YOU know why they're at a loss financially? Do YOU know how long it's been since Sarah's own Father even saw his own Daughter? How about the Mother????
Trust me, I'm dealing with the same CRAP right here in my own household as my Wife and I are raising our Grandson because BOTH parents are pieces of sh!t.
Now, was it our fault, the way we raised them. 2nd marriage, he was an adult and already had the child when we got married. However, we love this child unconditionally and we both know what it means to raise a child and never second guessed wheather we'd step up to the plate and do so. NOT the same case with the Foxwells.
BOTH parents abandoned their children because of drugs and alcohol and I'll be damned if I'm going to feel sorry for ewither one of them, especially since they jumped right back into the bottle.
Tough love isn't easy but it works better than being an inabler, (sp?). The Grandparents need to look into a mirror and face their own screw ups, just as my Wife and I must do the same and have done so. Believe me, we're not the only Grandparents raising their Grandchildren.
I do not want to see a DIME go to these people. The money was raised and intended for the children as an educational trust fund and that's what's going to happen. If it doesn't, well I'll ask States Attorney Davis Ruark to consider criminal charges for fraud. They agreed to do so, they need to fulfill their agreement.
As for my being sad for the Parents. Well, if they were in the frame of mind on a daily basis to completely understand and take responsibility for what they have caused, perhaps. I do not believe that is the case. How many Father's need to be introduced to these Children before the Mother actually gets it?
maybe you should ask the aunt who took the children on to raise WHY IN THE HELL SHE WOULD LET A MONSTER AROUND THESE KIDS?? the mother Jennifer, thought she did what was best for her kids at that time in her life. i dont know of one person who didnt need help at one point or another in life..you are so wrong about Jennifer. She is working her ass off to do what she needs to. That means get her kids back, be the mother she couldnt be at one time. I work with her and i have never seen someone work so hard for something they wanted.Being her children back. Which she was doing before sarah lost her life...you only have one mother i dont care who may raise you....
Sometimes in life you have only one chance to do the right and honorable thing, before time passes and the moment is gone forever. When that happens you dont have enough life left to undo the bad, you will die with another regret. If you have a soul you will see that and other things on your death bed. It will be lIke looking into a calm crystal clear pond and its just looking back at you.
Tommy, I alt to kick your ass.
Renee, I also know the family (both mother and father's side). If we continue to put money into this account, lets say until the children are old enough to go to college these two would live off this same money only to have nothing in the account when it's time to go to college. When they started having children they both should of grown up. If they really cared so much about these children they would of found a way to see them every week. I did donate once to this account. Not another dime of my money will go into this account until I know for sure these people can't touch it. I'd be willing to be they've both been into the account. I'd even make another bet that the money they did get did not go towards anything for the children. An attorney needs to be in charge of this account or even the orphans court.
+1 joe
Thank you Joe for keeping us informed . I know you are not intentionally bashing the whole family . The money needs to be handled responsibly . This is for the childrens future, not for the parents .
When you are talking about the Foxwell you shouldnt blame the whole family there ae some real good Foxwells out there and the whole fmily shouldnt have to pay for what one kid has done I dont think you are being far to the Foxwell family, We all know you can teach your kids right from wrong but they all dont listen to what we have to say , So lets give some of the Foxwell family a BREAK...
Drunks or not, nobody deserves to have their child taken and murdered. If that hadn't happened then we wouldn't be hammering them about their past. Leave them alone.
Amen Joe!
Well Joe Im glad you stepped up to raise your grand baby Im sure you are providing the best for him.... how ever the grand mom lives in a small apt and didnt have the room for all 7 kids well tec 6 becasue 1 lives with his father.... but thats not the point. The point is its time to leave the family alone. As for Tom maybe he is in hiding trying to staying out of trouble for once and Jen lets hope she is able to clean things up for herself but with the trash talking and running them down all the time I doubt that will happen. But as for the money I feel you should just take what ever has been put in the account and donate it to a local charity and be done with it..... They never asked for the towns hand outs..... Where there is a will there is a way. I have hope for this family.
Renee
Be careful, Joe. You blamed the grandparents here, saying they did a bad job raising their kids (Sarah's parents).
You just condemned your son/daughter or son/daughter-in-law, so either YOU or your WIFE are to blame for how one of your grandson's parents turned out.
Just using your logic.
I have no problem with you wanting the money to be sure to go to the children. I am not saying Sarah's parents were good parents, either.
But I have known a few parents who did everything as well as anyone could, and there was either something "just not right" about one of their kids (the others turned out fine) or a good kid got in with a bad crowd and it was near or totally impossible to get him "back."
Blaming the grandparents here just seems over the top, especially when you are experiencing the same thing with yours or your wife's child in having to take care of your cute grandson.
As screwed up as Sarah's parents may be, I have no doubt they loved her and were devastated by what happened to her and will carry that guilt all their lives -- perhaps to further try to drown that pain with alcohol or drugs.
Even people who started out okay sometimes make choices that bring them and their loved ones a lifetime of misery.
You could make your point that you don't feel the parents are responsible enough (including getting the account changed to a trust) to have charge of the donations without damning the entire family.
A little more compassion costs not a dime, and a little less fire and brimstone judgment would be nice.
anonymous 8:38, so that's the deal. Don't blame the rest of the family because they live in a small apartment. Well, perhaps you're right.
However, some of the Idiots coming here want to blame the Aunt because she dated that monster Thomas Leggs. Well guess what, Leggs was with a LOT of women. Let me tell you something else. If you think Leggs is the only guy out there takliungf advantage of volnerable women, guess again. If you think this kind of terror is over, stop by the courthouse and check out the restraining orders in the county.
Show me ONE Family Member right now that isn't second guessing everything that happened. You better damn well believe ALL of them are kicking themselves in the ass thinking, man, I should have taken these children. Of course many of them are wonderful people. However, there are also MANY of them that need to give the Father and Mother a swift kick in the ass to straighten them out.
Renee, as for the Mother working her ass off to get her kids back, BS! I'm sure there are plenty of Bartenders that would argue that statement by you. That goes for the Father too.
Putting ALL of that aside, the point here is that the money was raised FOR THE CHILDREN. Because the Grandparents have NOT fulfilled their commitment, I'm going to make sure not another damn penny goes into that account, UNTIL they change the Trust Fund.
If an actor got on tv and said, send us money for the children in Haiti and then pocketed the money for themself, you'd be pissed off too.
WHY are the Grandparents having such a hard time changing this account. I can only see ONE reason and IF the Family is reading this, (ESPECIALLY THE GRANDMOTHER) get your act together woman becauseyou may not have wanted it this way but you made a promise and people gave from their harts to help your Daughter's children have a better future, NOT YOURS!
7:56 Your wrong! I have two Mothers and love each one with all my heart. I have my birth Mother and I have my Step-Mother. I also have two Fathers and proud to say I have four sets of Grandparents.
The mother sent a letter last week and it was posted here, so she must read this. There must be a social worker involved in this situation, someone needs to step in and make sure that only the children get the money for college and nothing else.
It should be very cut and dry. That is the right thing to do. If it doesn't happen soon, then they won't be able to show their face or work around here.
Thanks Joe
I have had my own issues with this situation. I wish I knew that Social Services was watching this family.
I believe that things happen for a reason, whether we understand them or not. Sarah has brought forth to this community a problem that is worldwide.
This is not somewhere else or someone else. This is here and now due to Sarah.
I would be and always have been one of the first people to step up to the plate but there has always been something about this case that made me hold back. When it is right, when it feels right, I will be there.
Again Thanks Joe for keeping us informed.
Joe,
Tommy has had issues with his own personal demons for a long time and his parents have exhausted themselves trying to help him. Then they were even more strained trying to help their grandkids. I am not blaming you for looking out for the community AND the siblings of little Sarah. We all need to be aware of the "troubles" her parents have involved themselves in. This is not their past catching up with them, this is their current and (sadly) ongoing issues to face. No one is blaming the rest of the family or trying to say the aunt would touch the money. But, just to be safe they NEED an impartial person to oversee these funds for the sake of her brothers and sisters. These are not bad people but a few of them have made bad choices that they cannot change and should never forget so they may learn from them. I do not know the maternal grandmother personally so I can't comment on passing gossip. Mind you, it's not been favorable but in the wake of such tragedy who is to say how any of us would deal with such a devastating loss. Thank you for getting this information out to us, so we may all take everything into account before making our own decisions.
countrygirl@heart
The funny part of everything said here is Renee. The post was letting others know that the account has not been changed yet. Joe never went into detail about the booze/drugs. Renee's the one who got all of the bashing started with her own words. If I were you sweetheart I'd stop while I'm behind. As long as you continue to go on and on about how hard she's trying I will continue to bash for allowing her children to HAVE to be raised by the aunt. Yes, if this man hadn't come into the aunt's life we might still have Sarah. I say might because mommy dearest isn't/wasn't the best mom to those children. Remember a certain car incident where she's inside her trailer while there's a child (small one at that) left in her vehicle? If it had been the hottest day during the summer or coldest day during the winter that child could be gone as well. You'll never convince me that that woman is thinking of anyone except herself. Like I said, give up sweetheart.
Never once did I say "Renee, as for the Mother working her ass off to get her kids back, BS! I'm sure there are plenty of Bartenders that would argue that statement by you. That goes for the Father too." Jen is the type she like attention and at the bar shacking her "Shuda-coulda-woulda" is where she gets the attention she feels she needs.... never once did I say she was getting her kids back. But if the grand mom lives in a apt over a stoage unit there really is no place for the kids..... now as for Amy she is the only one who steped up and tried to keep those kids together. Tj was a slick talker and thought he was a "Ladies man" but in reality that was just EWWWWWWWW when you are around his you get the creaps and a horrible vibe it was like he undressed you with his eyes... alway did creap me out.... but what ever.... My point is stop blaming the family it wasent their fault..... Tj is a sick monster who molested his own daughter and maybe even Tonyas kdis too. But as for the money if its that serious have the county open its own fund at a different bank or buy bonds for these kids they cant cash them out for years to come. Or even just close the whole thing and be done with it.
Renee
For all of you who are taking Jennifer Foxwell's side, ask her about 80's night at Station 7 this Saturday. It sure as hell did not take her long to RSVP to the facebook invite. If I am not mistaken, it was 2 wks and 2 days AFTER her daughter went missing that she sent in the RSVP. Mourning my a$$. It is pathetic. She should be thinking of other things instead of partying. PLEASE ask her about this....... Because I am at a loss here. AND yes, if it was me that lost a child, partying would be the LAST thing on my mind.
I agree with countrygirl even though the father TOMMY is mis-guided doesnt mean the whole Foxwell is . They have no conrol over this bank account or any bank account in Sarahs name. They are really troubled over her lost and concerned of brothers and sisters.Any further coments should be directed to Jennifers side of the family.
I just think the community should agree that ANY and ALL monies raised should be directed for the future of Sarahs siblings and nothing else.It is a good faith effort that nobody wants to see abused.
Folks, there is good news.
I recently got off the phone with one of the representatives setting up the Trust Fund and I have been informed that the individuals in charge of the account will be working with their attorney as soon as tomorrow to finalize the documents necessary to finalize the Trust Fund.
I will Post another article just as soon as it is confirmed the paperwork is complete. At that time Salisbury News will again support this fundraising effort knowing everything is secure for the children.
Anonymous 9:50 Your concern about the other side of the family is great .
Thank you Joe for checking into this and notifying the public....Unfortunately Sarah parents nor the ones raising her were qualified nor good people. Their lives speak for themselves....They should be questioned or Sarah would have had a mother or "foster' mother at home with them at night. Be honest Sarah is probably better off, much better off in heaven than what she endured during this life. God help the rest of those children.
Anon 7:56 and 9:50. I'll start this comment out directed at you and then I'll move on. If you don't know the facts, you should just keep it to yourself. Actually, each and every one of you who have bashed Amy and the grandparents (her parents) should just shut up - you have no idea what you're talking about. Tom Foxwell's parents have had no contact with their grandchildren for at least 7 years. Tom's father has/had never laid eyes on Sarah or her brother or the 6 year-old younger sister, who is most likely not his grandchild. Tom's mother and stepfather hadn't seen Sarah and her brother since they were toddlers and has never seen the youngest one. The other children are not their grandchildren. In the 2 1/2 years the children have been with Amy, Jennifer has only visited them 20 times maybe - she's too busy with her social life and can't be bothered. Jennifer's parents and her sisters are the ONLY family members who have been a constant in the childrens' lives, have "taken in" the kids more than once, many times in fact, because they were being neglected or abused or because they were being evicted. Jennifer didn't "give" the kids to her sister Amy to raise. The court gave custody and guardianship to Amy after the family petitioned for custody and it was decided that because of the age of the grandparents, who may not live long enough to raise a 2 year old (at the time), Amy was the best choice, with the help of the grandparents. The grandfather has lived in the home with Amy and the kids since custody was granted, and the grandmother lives close by and assists financially and in other ways. It is my understanding that the grandmother recently purchased a house back in the fall, which is being fixed up, for Amy, the grandparents, and the kids to move into so that the kids would always have a roof over their heads. Sadly, they didn't get to move before this happened.
The grandparents and Jennifer's sisters have no use for her (or for any of the fathers or families of the fathers). She made her choices, the other families made their choices to not be involved, and Amy and her parents made their choices for the sake of the children. Not one of the other families have ever stepped up to the plate regarding these kids not even to the extent of sending a birthday card or a Christmas present.
It really is pathetic that people who have no grasp of the real truths have nothing better to do than bash a loving, caring family (Amy and grandparents) who have done absolutely everything they could with only one thought in mind - the welfare of those kids. If the grandparents are the bank account holders, as has been reported, you can REST ASSURED that NOBODY other than those kids will benefit from that money. The parents will NEVER see a penny from it. So - what's the problem - legal advice, legal documents, a thorough understanding of the process doesn't happen in 24 hours - these people are grieving - this bank account is probably not at the top of their to-do list at the moment - they have lawyers working on it, and it will be done WHEN it is done.
So Ive heard, the mother talks about going to AA meetings on her facebook.. Im sure the meetings arent held at station 7 but Im also sure thats where u can find her
Dear Anonymous 7:38 am -- Well written however very much one-sided . Tom's family has tried and will continue to try to see the childern. Due to Jenifer's mental state they are very much guarded. Jenifer has caused many,many problems for them . It saddens me to hear you say that Amy and her parents have no USE for them . Tom has issues no DOUBT. His parents and sister are good people and I know they very much want to be in the childerns life. I know they are pleased the childern are with Amy . This situation is very complicated .
Thank you for sharing this information Joe. Jennifer Foxwell is bashing you on facebook. She has even gone so far as to say you're just as bad a person as Thomas Leggs. Only a person who wanted their hands on that money would rebel in such a way. You called her out and she's upset. As far as I'm concerned you were looking out for our best interest and the best interest of Sarah's brothers and sisters. Hopefully Jennifer gets her tubes tied as she's caused enough damage.
Thanks Joe for keeping us informed..If people don"t like it than don"t come on your site... simple as that, Opinions are like a$$ holes everyone has one but facts are facts.. Thanks again
Anonymous 10:13----That was pretty creative, how long did it take you to come up with that one? Blogs are made to post opinions, and there are comment boards attached to each blog for just that. So you really have no place telling someone not to come on here, thats what blogs are for. If you take the responsibility of running a blog, you have to be ready to take the heat from people that dont agree with you, in an adult like manner. Period.
Are any of you really surprised by this? Come on...this whole effort has been suspect from the very beginning. Separate the feelings of horror and the suffering that Sarah endured from the pure and blatant opportunism that has been so evident from the beginning of this tragedy. Look closely, this isn't just about the wayward parents.
What is the matter with you all.
I will not put money into a fundraiser not knowing what it is going for. I will not pay for the electric bill, cable, or even food. That is what other help is for and I am sure they are getting it. I have my opinon of the mother and father and it is not a nice one. I will donate to the education of others in Sarah's name or something positive in Sarah's name. How dare they continue to keep this account like this when the great people in this area came to help them in the worst time. This is a slap to us who stepped up to the plate. Change the account PERIOD.
Post a Comment