Go to jail, get hooked on drugs, lose your children to the state and when it comes time to paying child support, even though you're not raising your children, ask the state for a reduction and guess what, they'll give it to you.
Many wonder, how can anyone raise a child on $125.00 a month and then the state reduces that amount? If you turn the children over to the state they'll pay the foster parents a lot more money to raise and feed these children.
Let's hear your stories, male or female.
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Finally the truth!! Salisbury is absolutely overwhelmed with this problem. Ask some of the local public school faculty and its the grandparents raising the children
My brother is raising his daughter. The ex doesn't work. Mommy and Daddy still support her butt. Can't get child support when she doesn't earn anything.
It's all about choosing what is best for your children, even if it means that you may starve yourself. I remember when my first son was born. My wife and I tried to be prepared, but like everybody told us, you're never truly prepared to be a parent. Times were tight. I was being furloughed at work, my wife was pregnant and had just started a new job and we were barely making ends meet.
Enter first born...
Boy did I immediately start learning about sacrifices! The grocery bill got tighter, the cable got cut, my truck was sold to eliminate the payment, enter the family vehicle, outrageous daycare expenses, no new phones, no new luxuries and minimal sleep. I ended up getting a second job which was a sacrifice in more ways than one - I had to work in my spare time AND it took time away from my son. I remember telling my wife that it would get better and we'll make it through this. The strain on our marriage was another struggle in itself. There was no eating out and no happy hour with friends. Shoot, some nights we found ourselves sitting on the couch eating Ramen noodles and reading books.
We lived worse than college kids (the kid that don't have mommy & daddy's bank accounts), but you know what? My son didn't. He had all the clothes he needed. He ate like a king and received all the nutrition he needed. He had his daycare bill paid on-time every week. He had a bed to sleep in and diapers on his rear. We never once sacrificed his needs for our wants, or even our needs. He was number one in our lives EVERY SINGLE DAY, and continues to be.
Things turned around for us. My wife and I received several promotions. We reinstated the luxuries in life and paid off debts. We had a second son and began to see some of the struggles return, but we had been through it all once so the second time was no big deal.
Bottom line, a child is a responsibility; an obligation that cannot be ignored. Parents owe it to their children to care for them and to provided them with their basic needs and more. Unfortunately, bad morals and the welfare state that our government promotes simply places a paycheck on the head of children. Too many people out there literally see having a child as a source of income for them to use on themselves. While the neglected child pays the ultimate price, the rest of us pay as well.
Unfortunately, this is the human element and there is truly not much we can do until the government changes its ways, but there are little things that we all can do to make a difference in a neglected child's life. Everyday I pack my sons' lunch for school and in each lunch there are a couple of extra items - way more than they could ever eat at lunch. I know that there are kids in my sons' schools that have been neglected so I have taught my kids to help out those around him that might not have enough to eat. This does several things - teaches sharing, it humbles my kids, makes friendships and helps somebody else that otherwise couldn't help themselves. Guess what? Everyday, their lunch boxes come home empty! It isn't much, but to that child who needs it, it could be everything for that day. It could mean not going to bed hungry that night.
We need to focus on the children and their needs when these deadbeat parents don't do their job. It's not the kids' fault that this is happening - they didn't choose their parents. There needs to be avenues for funds to directly reach the children. How do we do that? I have no clue, but something needs to be done because there are far too many deadbeat parents out there and too many young lives being wasted.
10:06 AM A comment worthy of a post
I am a father took me 40k to get my daughter from obviously a mother who was on drugs and etc but anyway you can go right to courthouse file contempt only 35$ what i did and shes now in contempt and possibly jail.if not paid
12:15: I wish I could follow what you are trying to say. You have a story, but I just don't understand what you are saying.
Be careful the money you spend till you know each family and the circumstances. They will take the handouts but chances are it still will not go to food for their bellies. I watched a mother walking her two sons to school the other day banging the smaller kid in the head over and over and telling him to hurry because he was sleepy and was going to be late. If mothers took the $ they had for food, CLOTHING THE CHILDREN, not themselves, spending time with them in constructive ways, and getting them to bed early instead of letting them roam the streets, this problem would not exist. $ is not the answer.
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