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Tuesday, December 29, 2009

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Anonymous has left a new comment on your post "Funeral Arrangements for Sarah Haley Foxwell":

I heard on WZBH 93.5 earlier that tonite at Pickles, I think they said tonite...anyway a fundraiser toward funeral expenses, do they not know that this is covered? I don't mean this ugly, but, if the funeral is covered, where would the money go...didn't Leggs used to work at Pickles? what's that about, a fundraiser there? sorry, the funeral is covered, the burial is covered- family-you don't get compensated for putting us all through hell. Sound cold? don't mean to, honest I don't.

Editors Note: If ANYONE knows of or has heard of ANY fundraiser for Sarah Foxwell's funeral, please contact us immediately. That being said, Pickles is NOT doing a fundraiser for funeral expenses. They are raising money for Sarah's siblings with a state educational fund. This money cannot be touched for anything other than education down the road.

The fundraiser will be this evening from 7 to 10 PM.

39 comments:

Anonymous said...

If that person would have paid closer attention, they would have heard that it's NOT for funeral expenses. All proceeds are going to a Educational fund.

Anonymous said...

I heard that Leggs used to work at Pickles as well. If that is in fact the case, I feel that Pickles would be a VERY inppropriate to be held as a fundraiser for Sarah.

Anonymous said...

Why would the siblings need an education fund? Im not getting it? If anything, people need to start pushing more harsher punishments and registraion for life for these sick o's

Anonymous said...

I heard that this morning. It definitely said it was for an educational fund for her siblings.

Anonymous said...

I believe the dj had it wrong, I caught the tail end of it and he was stressing that they needed money for funeral expenses. in any event, as always, Joe has cleared it all up.It's important to know what you're supporting, I'm sure we'd all agree on that.

Anonymous said...

Maybe they would like to use this towards Leggs' funeral!

Anonymous said...

anon 11:01

So he used to work at Pickles. Big Whoop. So that means the owners can't have a fundraiser in Sarah's honor? I personally know the owners and can assure you the intentions are apporiate.

Anonymous said...

I agree with one of the other comments...why education fund for the siblings?? Are we going to start education funds for all the other victims of sexual abuse or every child in foster care or being cared for by another family member because their parents are not able to? I don't mean to sound harsh however no one would have been contributing to an education fund for the siblings if she had not been murdered.

Anonymous said...

It's quite appropriate for Pickles to want to make up for employing this creep. An educational fund for the siblings also is a good idea. Think their parents are going to have it together enough to help them pay for college?

Anonymous said...

I am agreed about the funds collected. They need to be for educational or therapeutic needs with someone other than the family in charge of the funds. There should also be a cap on the funding for educational, with the rest going to funding for law enforcement needs and advocacy groups for child rights.

Anonymous said...

Farmers Bank of Willards is taking money as well at Tims Pizza in Salisbury by Food Lion and Ollies

Anonymous said...

Sounds like everyone is trying to make it in the press for this. My respect goes to the anonymous donor for all of the funeral expenses.

Anonymous said...

to all...i am a dj at 93.5 the beach and am sorry if a dj earlier today mispoke...the fundraiser is for an educational fund and we hope to raise as much as possible...hope to see you all there...and to Joe thank you so much for your devotion to this story as so many others...sbynews is where i rely the most for my news and i thank you for that !!

jj the dj

Anonymous said...

If you dont want to donate to an education fund no one says you have to. For crying out loud Sarah's siblings lost their sister at no fault of their own. They have a very rough road a head of them and we should be glad to help do something for them. Giving these children the opportunity to get a good education could be life changing for them. Like I said if you don't want to donate dont, but I would be embarrassed to post such things anywhere even if you do post anonymously.

Anonymous said...

I saw the story about this young lady on Fox News here in New Hampshire. I google searched for further information and I saw links to this blog several times so here I am. I am so sorry for your loss. We've never experienced anything like this so I can't say I know how you feel. I can only imagine your community is heart broken. Please keep in your hearts that little Sarah is in a better place with the Lord to protect her and she will no longer have to fear people like the animal who did this to her.

Susan,

Salisbury, New Hampshire

Anonymous said...

Tj worked at Cactus Club not Pickles.

Anonymous said...

Thanks JJ the DJ, it most def wasn't you who misspoke, and you speak for all of us when you say sbynews has the news.

Anonymous said...

Sounds like people are deepenly saddened and feel the need to do something to make someone, maybe themselves feel better. Stop looking for all the negatives, only one person will be on trial here. Participate or don't but don't continue putting the motives of every person in this community on trial.

Anonymous said...

A good education is the key to these children breeaking the cycle of poverty and dysfunction. If they receive a good education, they will become more sel-confident and possibly choose better people to associate with. In addition, they may be more independent and earn a higher income. It isn't the answer to everything and not all educated people are not dysfunctional, but it will go a long toward helping their future.

Anonymous said...

I would like to say the people who work at Pickles are all very caring people. Some of them have children of their own and I can assure everyone that this fundraiser is being held as a way for them to express their sadness and to do something GOOD for the community.

How do I know this....my husband and I frequent Pickles Pub at least once a week. We enjoy the company of these young people and the food is great. You will find people of all ages enjoying each others company at Pikles.

Why an educational fund? As a teacher of the Worcester County School system, I can not think of anything more fitting. The cycle of this family must stop...education and the opportunity to receive an education is the key to breaking this cycle. Children are our future so we must invest or time and money in them - not dismiss them because they come from a disfunctional family.

Please do not judge the children... they are victims, also. So instead of passing judgement why not show up at Pickles tonight and celebrate a new beginning for these children?

p burg said...

If the sibblings get a good education after high school, maybe one or all of them will study law or criminal justice and put people like Leggs away. This story still has a chance for a positive out come.

Anonymous said...

What the hell is wrong with you people.This child was abducted from her home and murdered.Can you imagine what her siblings are going through.This child was living with her aunt and not her mom and dad.Doese that say something?If the family did not have enough money to bury her,do you think that they would have enogh money to send them to college?Lets have a little more compassion.

Crystallll said...

i think the only thing her sibling need is to be taken away from the unfit familys she has been living with instead of a education because regaurdless of how much money you raise that young girl is still in harms way! I want to see this little girl get the care and love and happiness she deserves!, Also Joe there is a collection jar at Ez in Willards, I think its ridiculous if that money that you ppl have been giving goes straight to the family you best belive its not going to go to bill, with what i hear it'll go to something else and i dont agree with giving them any cash! the funeral is covered what more do they need?

Chimera said...

You know what?I think whatever people want to do for the surviving children is fine.If you do not want to participate,then just dont.As long as the family isnt profiting off it who cares?

Anonymous said...

12:01 is correct in theory except I don't see it in this case.

A good example of someone ending the cycle of poverty is Dr Ben Carson, Hopkins Pediatric Neosurgeon. Read up on him. The difference is he had a mother who would not let him associate with neighbor children and made him read books. It's not to say we should give up on any child, but until we get out of the mindset that "children are better off with family members" when the family members are themselves irresponsible, things aren't going to change much.

Anonymous said...

Just wondering, who is in charge of the money being donated at the farmers bank of willards? Is that for an educational fund also. If so, great. But my understanding is that they are just a drop off location, not the ones who set up the fund. And people were asked to donate money there to help with funeral cost. Now that it is paid for who delegates that the money in that fund goes toward the education of the younger sister? Or does it just go toward the family? I'm all for helping the family with financial needs in this terrible time but I have read numerous post stating a drug problem....hope that money does not go towards that if it is true because that doesn't help the younger sister. God Bless Sarah, I know she is in a better place. And I pray for her family.

Anonymous said...

11:56
Very well said!
Every Grandpappy in the world has said one time.....
If you dont have anything good to say, then dont say it at all.

Anonymous said...

The fundraiser at Pickles is tonight at 8PM. Anyone who would like to donate items or gift certificates for the silent auction can contanct Johnathan at Pickles Pub @ 410-258-9500.

And by the way I think it's a little sad that people are criticizing them for holding the fund raiser. Who cares if TJ worked there at one point or not? He doesn't now and I'm sure he's not on the guest list. How about giving them some credit for trying to help out the community? It was absolutely amazing how much this community came together when Sarah went missing. I think one of the best ways that we can honor her memory is to keep standing together and focus our energy on the s.o.b.s that deserve it not on people who are just trying to help out.

Anonymous said...

People are free to do with their money what they wish and if people want to donate it to the family then so be it, I however do not agree with it. Covering the funeral is honorable, however once those expenses have been covered I feel donating money to the family is a way of trying to replace their loss with material posessions.

Just because an educational fund is set in place that does not ensure her siblings will take advantage of it and go to college. If the children are in an environment that is not condusive to learning there is a good chance that they will never want nor try for a higher education.

If you feel the need to give money: donate it to counseling sessions for the children and family or to an agency whose purpose is to fight for stronger laws with regard to sexual offenders. Don't just throw money at the family as a way to ease their pain, it doesn't work like that; and if all that I have heard is true, you are throwing money towards the Aunt's drug use which will only hurt her siblings more than help.

Anonymous said...

Joe FITHP (fire in the hole photo website) still has the info up from the original collection for the funeral expenses.

Hope said...

11:26, 12:29 & 1:46 how can you be so cruel? These children have gone through hell, and will continue to do so at the thought of losing a sister. If we can make something a little easier on them that is great. You want to criticize the family thats on you, i bet you have never even met them. Shame on you for not wanting to do something for the other children affected. They have lost something forever! They will never get her back. Unlike everyone else they did KNOW her personally. If we can give them something to look forward to and work toward then I say that is wonderful. Keep your bitterness to yourself.

Anonymous said...

if the family doesn't have enough money for the siblings to go to college, they can apply for the FAFSA monies to go to college. why not use the donations for counseling for the children? State appointed!

Anonymous said...

2:59, no one is being cruel. They are being realistic.

And no I've have never met them. And I don't want to. I choose friends that have goals in life, not those who want to know where the next party is being held.

Society doesn't owe those children anything-the parents do.

Anonymous said...

I'm very sorry that those children lost their sister-but how many people every single day are affected by tragedy and have to get by with absolutely nothing? It's like giving someone straight a's in college because their roommate committed suicide. I feel that if people wanna make donations, they should go towards organizations like the Life Crisis Center and the Child Advocacy Center, where workers unite to fight for victim's rights every single day.

Anonymous said...

This is just one of the problems. These woman who have multiple children with no means to support even themselves. And fathers no where to be found or in and out of jail themselves.

Then when the community puts their foot down and says enough is enough it sounds cruel.
Cruel are the uneducated mothers and fathers with no work ethic, no morals or values who put their own good times before being mothers and fathers.
Keep in mind that most crime victims are so, because of their own lifestyle or the lifestyle of those around them. Sarah's murder is an example of that statistic.

Anonymous said...

It is not being cruel, it is being honest...

Many people go through horrible things in their lives; they lose loved ones, face terrible illnesses, are abused and on and on... money does not fix these things. Giving this family money is not going to bring Sarah back. The money is not going to fill the void from her loss. And there is no guarantee that money dontated to the family is going to ever be seen or used for the benefit of her siblings.

My Mother died of heart disease at 45 when I was 20 years old. Money meant nothing to me, it wouldn't bring her back. And instead of people sending me flowers and bringing me food I asked that they instead donated to the American Heart Association in her honor so that it would hopefully keep another person from experiencing the loss I did.

Donated money is better spent to keep such horrible things from happening. To support neighborhood watch groups, children's centers that teach and counsel children, volunteer fire departments and search and rescue organizations. Church groups that help underprivaleged children and parents... You can donate to all of these causes in Sarah's honor and each and every one of them will have a benefit not only to her siblings and family but to everyone else in the community as well.

Anonymous said...

I think 4:23 has said it best, and that's all the original comment was saying. Funeral and burial are covered, potential donors are simply saying, where would the money then go? I would like to also take this time to say that anyone can apply to be a mentor to a child, info is online at www.wcboe.org. It means so much to some of these children just to have someone actually talk to them, not at them. and they do check your background. Didn't mean to get away from the topic at hand, but sometimes, more often than not, time is money. Time you can give a child can change their future.

Anonymous said...

"2:49" I saw that and sent them an e-mail, saying to check out sbynews. The burial has been paid for. map

Anonymous said...

I think it needs to be said however that yes this function may have been at pickles but wow what a turn out and huge amount of money they raised. My daughter was in attendence to support he cause and came home to tell me that several local businesses such as Seacrets, Pickles, and even her 21 yo friend Zachary Keenan a small town delmar boy stepped up and donated huge amounts of money in which then was matched by opposing businesses. All in all the event raised over 15 thousand dollars. There is something to be said for that....this is a great community and I am so proud to be a member of it and have my family right here on the Eastern Shore.

-Angie Davis