By D. Scott Trettenero
Much has been written and discussed about how balance in life will help us be happier and healthier. It is easy to notice when one’s life is out of balance with feelings of distress, anxiety, and uneasiness. Being in total balance is a goal that may never be obtainable as life is always changing and full of surprises.
Life seems to be a juggling act of its many different aspects.
To strive for the best balance possible, it is important to know what to balance. Life is full of contradictions and we are sometimes forced to manage situations that are not comfortable for us.
Dr. Robert Quinn of University of Michigan Business School gives us a description of these contradictions with his Competing Values Model that he applies to business and leadership. He says that we must juggle certain opposite and conflicting aspects of life to be successful. If we apply his model to our everyday life, we can better understand what the important areas are that we must concentrate on to create our balance.
• Healthy Relationships: We all have a need and a desire for healthy and respectful relationships. Relationships are our connection to others and help to create feelings of belonging, camaraderie, and ultimately love. Giving of ourselves creates a goodwill that attracts others to us.
• Meaningful Work: Work is an environment where we can use our given or learned talents in a way that creates value for services needed or wanted by others. If one is passionate about their work, it can become a part of one’s identity. The more value we can create, the more rewards we can earn.
• Adequate Recreation: Recreation is a time to relax, recuperate, and enjoy ourselves. We can recharge our batteries and let go of our burdens. All work and no play can make us one dimensional. Recreation can broaden our interests and capabilities.
• Self-Time: This is something that is much needed for a multitude of reasons. We all need time for introspection, reflection, and the space to create new perceptions of how we are living. This is also a time for exercise, reading, learning, and meditation. We need some time for working on our body, mind and spirit.
As we get out of balance in any of these areas of life, we will want to devote more time and energy to them to regain our balance. One thing to notice about these different aspects of life is that they are in opposition to each other. Work is the opposite of play and relationships are the opposite of self-time. We all might have an area of life that we are stronger in by our natures and our temperaments. The area we will be weakest in might be the one opposing it.
Working toward balance will help us not only to be more centered and grounded, but to become more and better rounded. We can all use more of that.
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Tuesday, April 19, 2016
How To Build Authentic Character In Youth Sports
Not everyone deserves a trophy.
In fact, unearned rewards can be harmful, because artificially inflating a child’s self-esteem merely for participation in sport sends the wrong message, warns psychologist Jason Richardson.
“There are plenty of incarcerated felons with an inflated self-view and there are extremely successful people grappling with a more moderate self-concept, so self-esteem alone is not the measure by which we should prepare our children for greatness,” says Richardson, a Pan-Am Games gold medalist who is also known as “Dr. JRich” among colleagues.
Richardson isn’t alone. Last year, Pittsburgh Steelers outside linebacker James Harrison returned two participation trophies given to his two sons, awarded not for a specific victory that they’d earned, but simply for being student-athletes.
Anyone can give and get a trophy, but the true value of youth sports is in the occasional tough lessons – and successes – children experience through hard work and merit, says Richardson, author of “It’s All BS! We’re All Wrong, And You’re All Right!” (www.drjasonrichardson.com).
He offers practical tips parents can share with their kids.
• Stop saying “the problem is …” Fill in the blank. Too many people say the problem is with the coach, the school, the other kids, the equipment, the schedule – and so on. This kind of thinking implies failure because it immediately rules out your child’s goals. Instead, say things that rule in positive outcomes, such as, “I/We/You can do this!”
• Make failure a teachable moment. Sports can test a kid’s emotional fragility. They may want to give up with failure, but that’s a terrible lesson. If your child missed a free throw that would’ve won the team the game, encourage free-throw practice the next day. Better yet, ask them what they are going to do differently next time! Use a coach’s staple: remind your child that Michael Jordan was cut by his high school basketball team during his sophomore year. Parents can always reward persistence and effort.
• Don’t let your child’s ego run wild. The flipside of low self-esteem due to failure can be cockiness with success. Children have far less experience keeping the ego in check, so if he/she is the best athlete in school, they may become arrogant. Try to catch this early; people evolve at different rates. Temper their ego by showing examples of humility, respect and gratitude. Use examples of great athletes who have overcome slumps or adversity.
• Show them how to be a better student. It may seem odd that a star quarterback can memorize every detail of a complex playbook, but has trouble with class studies. If he’s having trouble with chemistry, for example, place the playbook next to the textbook and show him the parallels of complexity. Don’t let him believe he’s “just a jock.”
In fact, unearned rewards can be harmful, because artificially inflating a child’s self-esteem merely for participation in sport sends the wrong message, warns psychologist Jason Richardson.
“There are plenty of incarcerated felons with an inflated self-view and there are extremely successful people grappling with a more moderate self-concept, so self-esteem alone is not the measure by which we should prepare our children for greatness,” says Richardson, a Pan-Am Games gold medalist who is also known as “Dr. JRich” among colleagues.
Richardson isn’t alone. Last year, Pittsburgh Steelers outside linebacker James Harrison returned two participation trophies given to his two sons, awarded not for a specific victory that they’d earned, but simply for being student-athletes.
Anyone can give and get a trophy, but the true value of youth sports is in the occasional tough lessons – and successes – children experience through hard work and merit, says Richardson, author of “It’s All BS! We’re All Wrong, And You’re All Right!” (www.drjasonrichardson.com).
He offers practical tips parents can share with their kids.
• Stop saying “the problem is …” Fill in the blank. Too many people say the problem is with the coach, the school, the other kids, the equipment, the schedule – and so on. This kind of thinking implies failure because it immediately rules out your child’s goals. Instead, say things that rule in positive outcomes, such as, “I/We/You can do this!”
• Make failure a teachable moment. Sports can test a kid’s emotional fragility. They may want to give up with failure, but that’s a terrible lesson. If your child missed a free throw that would’ve won the team the game, encourage free-throw practice the next day. Better yet, ask them what they are going to do differently next time! Use a coach’s staple: remind your child that Michael Jordan was cut by his high school basketball team during his sophomore year. Parents can always reward persistence and effort.
• Don’t let your child’s ego run wild. The flipside of low self-esteem due to failure can be cockiness with success. Children have far less experience keeping the ego in check, so if he/she is the best athlete in school, they may become arrogant. Try to catch this early; people evolve at different rates. Temper their ego by showing examples of humility, respect and gratitude. Use examples of great athletes who have overcome slumps or adversity.
• Show them how to be a better student. It may seem odd that a star quarterback can memorize every detail of a complex playbook, but has trouble with class studies. If he’s having trouble with chemistry, for example, place the playbook next to the textbook and show him the parallels of complexity. Don’t let him believe he’s “just a jock.”
Want To Set Up A Shell Corporation To Hide Your Millions? No Problem
The leaking of more than 11 million documents from Panamanian law firm Mossack Fonseca earlier this month cast new light on the arcane world of offshore shell companies, long a favorite hiding place for the very rich.
But actually setting up a shell corporation turns out to be something that any average Joe can do. In fact, you can do it in just a little more time than it takes to open an email account, with the help of one of the army of law firms and financial advisers that specialize in them.
"You can do it over the phone. You can do it over the Internet. It's relatively easy to do, depending on where you are and what you want to set up," says Tom Cardamone, managing director of Global Financial Integrity, a nonprofit research group that looks for ways to stop illicit financial flows.
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But actually setting up a shell corporation turns out to be something that any average Joe can do. In fact, you can do it in just a little more time than it takes to open an email account, with the help of one of the army of law firms and financial advisers that specialize in them.
"You can do it over the phone. You can do it over the Internet. It's relatively easy to do, depending on where you are and what you want to set up," says Tom Cardamone, managing director of Global Financial Integrity, a nonprofit research group that looks for ways to stop illicit financial flows.
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Monday, April 18, 2016
Obama Urges Opening Cable TV Boxes To Competition
President Obama is throwing his weight behind a plan that would lead to competition in the market for set-top cable and satellite TV boxes. Most viewers now rent the boxes from their TV providers. The Federal Communications Commission wants to make it easier for viewers to buy the devices.
The FCC estimates it costs subscribers $231 a year on average to rent the bulky boxes that enable them to watch cable or satellite TV. Earlier this year the agency proposed a way to make it easier for viewers to buy the boxes outright.
In essence it would require TV channels to sell their content to third-party groups, like Google and others who would sell their own devices. In an interview with Yahoo News, President Obama says a little competition is a good idea:
"The cable or satellite box is just one example of an area where because it's been tied to the provider and you rent it and consumers spend billions of dollars on this every single year, there hasn't been much innovation. And so the FCC is looking, independently of anything we do here at the White House, at whether it makes sense to open that up to competition."
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The FCC estimates it costs subscribers $231 a year on average to rent the bulky boxes that enable them to watch cable or satellite TV. Earlier this year the agency proposed a way to make it easier for viewers to buy the boxes outright.
In essence it would require TV channels to sell their content to third-party groups, like Google and others who would sell their own devices. In an interview with Yahoo News, President Obama says a little competition is a good idea:
"The cable or satellite box is just one example of an area where because it's been tied to the provider and you rent it and consumers spend billions of dollars on this every single year, there hasn't been much innovation. And so the FCC is looking, independently of anything we do here at the White House, at whether it makes sense to open that up to competition."
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TRUMP CHALKING BY COLLEGE REPUBLICANS IS A ‘HATE CRIME,’ BLACK STUDENTS CLAIM
Chalk messages triggered not just students but faculty and staff at the nation’s largest Catholic university.
DePaul University’s Black Student Union accused its College Republicans (CRs) of a hate crime because they organized the April 4 chalking outside the Student Center, with messages that alluded to Republican presidential frontrunner Donald Trump and praised police and Israel.
Though BSU representative Michael Lynch told The College Fix that he filed a hate-crime report against the CRs, both the DePaul administration and Public Safety department toldThe Fix they had not received any such report from Lynch.
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Fire on Woodcrest Ave In Salisbury Ruled Accidental
NOTICE OF INVESTIGATION
Date: 4/18/2016
Time: 7:00pm
Location / Address: 300 Woodcrest Ave. Salisbury, Wicomico County
Type of Incident: Fire
Description of Structure / Property: Single story wood framed dwelling
Owner / Occupants: David Ashford Sr.
Injuries or Deaths: None
Estimated $ Loss: Structure: $ 90,000 Contents: $ 10,000
Smoke Alarm Status: not activated
Fire Alarm / Sprinkler Status: N/A
Arrests(s): N/A
Primary Responding Fire Department: Salisbury Fire Department
# of Alarms: 1 # Of Firefighters: 30
Time to Control: 20 minutes
Discovered By: Neighbor
Area of Origin: Front porch
Preliminary Cause: Accidental as a result of discarded smoking material
Additional Information: Family was displaced by the fire
ALERT: Hillary Makes Terrifying Announcement – We Can’t Let Her Be President…
Hillary Clinton is vowing to knock down all the walls that make it tough for immigrants to gain citizenship. VOW…is a strong word and that should be enough for people to do their best at keeping her OUT of the White House…
From HotAir:
While pushing for votes in New York (a phrase we haven’t seen in the news since 1976) the former Secretary of State told her adoring audience that, if elected, she would make it a priority to create a new federal agency which would knock down “all the barriers” to citizenship, particularly for all of those Americans in Waiting who are in the country illegally. (Daily Caller)
Democratic presidential candidate Hillary Clinton said she would make it easier for immigrants to secure citizenship in a meeting with New York activists Wednesday, vowing to use her campaign to “knock down all the barriers.”
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From HotAir:
While pushing for votes in New York (a phrase we haven’t seen in the news since 1976) the former Secretary of State told her adoring audience that, if elected, she would make it a priority to create a new federal agency which would knock down “all the barriers” to citizenship, particularly for all of those Americans in Waiting who are in the country illegally. (Daily Caller)
Democratic presidential candidate Hillary Clinton said she would make it easier for immigrants to secure citizenship in a meeting with New York activists Wednesday, vowing to use her campaign to “knock down all the barriers.”
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Insurers warn losses from ObamaCare are unsustainable
Health insurance companies are amplifying their warnings about the financial sustainability of the ObamaCare marketplaces as they seek approval for premium increases next year.
Insurers say they are losing money on their ObamaCare plans at a rapid rate, and some have begun to talk about dropping out of the marketplaces altogether.
“Something has to give,” said Larry Levitt, an expert on the health law at the Kaiser Family Foundation. “Either insurers will drop out or insurers will raise premiums.”
While analysts expect the market to stabilize once premiums rise and more young, healthy people sign up, some observers have not ruled out the possibility of a collapse of the market, known in insurance parlance as a “death spiral.”
In the short term, there is a growing likelihood that insurers will push for substantial premium increases, creating a political problem for Democrats in an election year.
Insurers have been pounding the drum about problems with ObamaCare pricing.
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Insurers say they are losing money on their ObamaCare plans at a rapid rate, and some have begun to talk about dropping out of the marketplaces altogether.
“Something has to give,” said Larry Levitt, an expert on the health law at the Kaiser Family Foundation. “Either insurers will drop out or insurers will raise premiums.”
While analysts expect the market to stabilize once premiums rise and more young, healthy people sign up, some observers have not ruled out the possibility of a collapse of the market, known in insurance parlance as a “death spiral.”
In the short term, there is a growing likelihood that insurers will push for substantial premium increases, creating a political problem for Democrats in an election year.
Insurers have been pounding the drum about problems with ObamaCare pricing.
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Doris Roberts Dead at 90
We're told Doris passed away Sunday in L.A.
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NBA to Allow Ads on Players' Jerseys
(CNN) - The National Basketball Association has become the first major US sports league to allow advertising on uniforms.
The four major pro sports leagues allow corporate logos on practice gear.
But the NBA is the first to approve ad space on jerseys during regular season games.
The NBA's board of governors approved the new ad space during its spring meeting Thursday and Friday.
Ads have already appeared on uniforms during the All-Star game in February. Players sported Kia logos.
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The four major pro sports leagues allow corporate logos on practice gear.
But the NBA is the first to approve ad space on jerseys during regular season games.
The NBA's board of governors approved the new ad space during its spring meeting Thursday and Friday.
Ads have already appeared on uniforms during the All-Star game in February. Players sported Kia logos.
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Proof that Politicians Say the Same Thing ALL THE TIME
The more you pay attention to politicians, the more you realize like a broken record… they say the same things all the time. Sometimes, as in the case of Marco Rubio in his worst debate performance ever, it’s a mini-stump speech which you can agonizingly re-watch here:
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Make America Sane Again
Make America Sane Again has been a call to arms for many of us during this 2016 election cycle. After watching the near decimation of our Constitution over the past 8 years, this was supposed to be a time of resurgence, a time for America to return to her roots, to her founding principles and guiding beliefs.
Instead, this election cycle has become a reality T.V. show. Since Donald Trump announced his candidacy in mid-2015, he has had his run of the field, nearly unlimited press coverage, and an unmistakable ability to take any story no matter how negative and turn it to his advantage. In fact, a long-standing joke in regards to his campaign was that he could shoot someone and still would lead in the polls. The question is why?
It is said that the political will of the people ebbs and flows similar to the tide. This seems to be true today. The American people are angry and they feel betrayed by those they send to Washington. This was first evident in 2008 when a relatively unknown quantity came on to the scene: a junior senator from Illinois, Barack Obama. Despite no one knowing who he was and what he stood for, he was able to sway the American people, to make them believe he alone was their best chance to make real change in DC. Despite his rhetoric, there has been little change and what has changed has not been for the better according to public opinion. With the Tea Party movement bursting onto the scene in 2010, the momentum seemed to be shifting. In that midterm election cycle, the Republican Party retook the house but were unable to take the Senate. Still with these changes, those of us of conservative leanings assumed 2012 was our year to retake The White House. In fact, that was around the time that I began speaking out against this administration first on a political Facebook page and then eventually on an Internet-based radio talk show. For over five years, I have lent my voice to trying to show the American public clear differences between the new brand of liberalism and political conservatism. Again, we thought 2012 was our time to shine and we were told Mitt Romney was the man to get it done. Now while Romney embodied many of the qualities we were looking for in a candidate, he was practically no one’s first choice. Many of us did what we felt was our duty and rallied behind the nominee however. We picked up our banner and marched off to do battle in the name of saving the republic. The Romney camp, however, seemed to not hold the same fire in their belly. Despite clear advantages after the first debate and catching President Obama in a flat out lie in the second debate, Candidate Romney refused to press the advantage and went on to lose the 2012 election, despite the terrible state of the nation from 2008-2012.
Instead, this election cycle has become a reality T.V. show. Since Donald Trump announced his candidacy in mid-2015, he has had his run of the field, nearly unlimited press coverage, and an unmistakable ability to take any story no matter how negative and turn it to his advantage. In fact, a long-standing joke in regards to his campaign was that he could shoot someone and still would lead in the polls. The question is why?
It is said that the political will of the people ebbs and flows similar to the tide. This seems to be true today. The American people are angry and they feel betrayed by those they send to Washington. This was first evident in 2008 when a relatively unknown quantity came on to the scene: a junior senator from Illinois, Barack Obama. Despite no one knowing who he was and what he stood for, he was able to sway the American people, to make them believe he alone was their best chance to make real change in DC. Despite his rhetoric, there has been little change and what has changed has not been for the better according to public opinion. With the Tea Party movement bursting onto the scene in 2010, the momentum seemed to be shifting. In that midterm election cycle, the Republican Party retook the house but were unable to take the Senate. Still with these changes, those of us of conservative leanings assumed 2012 was our year to retake The White House. In fact, that was around the time that I began speaking out against this administration first on a political Facebook page and then eventually on an Internet-based radio talk show. For over five years, I have lent my voice to trying to show the American public clear differences between the new brand of liberalism and political conservatism. Again, we thought 2012 was our time to shine and we were told Mitt Romney was the man to get it done. Now while Romney embodied many of the qualities we were looking for in a candidate, he was practically no one’s first choice. Many of us did what we felt was our duty and rallied behind the nominee however. We picked up our banner and marched off to do battle in the name of saving the republic. The Romney camp, however, seemed to not hold the same fire in their belly. Despite clear advantages after the first debate and catching President Obama in a flat out lie in the second debate, Candidate Romney refused to press the advantage and went on to lose the 2012 election, despite the terrible state of the nation from 2008-2012.
Abdul the Skateboarder surprising last ride
Thousands of years of inbreeding,
Looks like a suicide bomber who missed the skate board training class - but still found his 72 virgins...
You may have trouble watching this JUST once!
https://gfycat.com/PlaintiveObedientFlounder
Looks like a suicide bomber who missed the skate board training class - but still found his 72 virgins...
You may have trouble watching this JUST once!
https://gfycat.com/PlaintiveObedientFlounder
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