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Sunday, March 12, 2017

Heroin Just Killed My Baby

I try not to enter Brendan’s bedroom. It has been four months and it still smells of death. Today, as I open the door nausea overtakes me. I placed a small rug down to cover the vomit stain, but the edges of Brendan’s body fluids still peek out, taunting me, daring me to break down and never recover.

His hockey equipment is lying on the carpet with the bag open so that his sweaty items don’t grow mold. His empty soda cans and old gum wrappers are still on his nightstand where he left them.

All of the items from his brand new custom ordered 2015 orange RAV4 are stacked on his bed: a box of chocolates, his school work, a Columbine keychain, his NA tags that mark his sobriety, and all of the garbage I could not bear to throw away.

Heroin addiction has ruined our family. The day my 15-year-old son, Brendan, took his first hit, he changed my life. Yes, not just his, but mine too. And not just mine, everyone who loved him.

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15 comments:

Anonymous said...

In sorry about the loss of such a young life.... but saying the drug killed him...no he chose to do this....when you make a bad choice bad things happen....it's life sadly

Anonymous said...

So sad I am sorry

Anonymous said...

Time to hang heroin dealers

Anonymous said...

This article is very sad in the fact that this woman had to lay her child to rest! With that being said this woman needs SERIOUS Psychological Help! Heroin did not kill her child! Her child made a very dangerous and Deadly choice, and now she has to live with that! Blaming a drug or a gun or anything else inanimate for a death is NOT DEALING with the real UNDERLYING cause! Don't sugar coat it!

Anonymous said...

No it's time to teaach our children....the drug won't go away....we can teach our kids

Anonymous said...

I love how you arm chair doctors analyze a situation that you have no direct knowledge of. Social media brings out the idiot in all of you.

Anonymous said...

A drug is nothing like a gun. He was a kid and made a dumb choice. One hit and they are hooked on that shit, they can't escape that high! It's absolutely the damn drug and poor choices that surely killed this young teenager. I assume you never made an unwise chice at 16? God bless him and his family, pray your child or family is never put through this ordeal.

Anonymous said...

Have some compassion some people are so judgemental and mean regardless of the fact of how a young life still was lost a son brother

Anonymous said...

Blogger Anonymous said...
Time to hang heroin dealers

March 10, 2017 at 2:04 PM

How about we start with their suppliers first

Anonymous said...

No poor choices killed this young man...he made a choice ....wasn't forced....yes it is sad...but it's life... we all know right from wrong...it's not as if information is not available. If you get involved with drugs you have a two options...death or jail...it's not rocket science...

Anonymous said...

9:30 & 2:50 you are sooo right and when people stop pacifying loved ones on it things may get better

Anonymous said...

Your baby killed himself, no way around that. The high was never enough, he went for the max, and got it.

Mu daughter stopped, has no teeth, no job, a record to guarantee it, and will probably die from it eventually because society will never hire her to take care of her two children. She has no dreams other than F-U Dad and KMA.

My other two are superstars, so I must be a bad father. No, This daughter cried from birth and continues today, had the best from Johns Hopkins since birth and was just plain made out of hate for everyone and everything, and there was never any chance of changing that unless by her own self, and it still has not happened at age 25.

You have really lost nothing but a headache, and I hate to put it so bluntly, but you never had any part in this and never had any control even though us parents mostly retain control until adulthood. It never happened for you or me.If mime goes that way, I will have absolutely no remorse, as she is an adult in charge of her own life and has never owned up to her own responsibilities. Her death would really be meaningless at this point other than the cost of burial we survivors would have to bear.

it's time to "unloved" your son, have a crew come in and renew the room, and get on with YOUR life.

Sorry about your loss, but God is still holding you in His hand, and you can go on without remorse from this and still be a happy person. I, myself have lost a son in different circumstances, and nothing in your future will EVER hurt that much, and I know your pain intimately. Please know you will be okay. If you need to talk, Joe knows me. Call him . gb

Zorro said...

Reverend Jessie Jackson, NAACP and alike are all trafficking these drugs into this Country

Anonymous said...

Blogger Zorro said...
Reverend Jessie Jackson, NAACP and alike are all trafficking these drugs into this Country

March 10, 2017 at 10:20 PM

You failed to mention our own government. You seem to think only people of color are involved in the drug trade by not mentioning others.

Anonymous said...

Thank you for posting this I am sure it was hard to do but maybe if it helps just one person out there, one at a time, these blogs are necessary to get through to the lost. I pray it works.