Joe,
My son, David Hill is missing. He is 33 years old. He left his father's house on Tuesday. He called his grandmother from a Citgo station in Ocean Pines on Christmas Day. His cousin and her husband went to pick him up from the phone booth but he wasn't there. His brother and father, rode to Ocean Pines and Ocean City looking for him. He hasn't called and we're worrying about him. Has anyone seen him or know where he's at? He had been diagnosed as bi-polar and it's possible he hasn't been taking his medication.
Thank you,
Bonnie Lavish
If any of you have seen David, please contact me at alberobutzo@wmconnect.com. I will make sure the Mother is made aware of any updates. You can also contact any of your local police departments and give them an update as well. Any comments posted on this article that are not related to the subject at hand will be rejected. Questions as to why he might be missing will also be rejected. We're looking to help the Parents find their missing Son. I will keep you updated as the information comes in.
UPDATE: The Parents have made contact with the Maryland State Police just recently. They will be back in touch with me after they have given them the details. Since they hadn't made contact with any Police Agency before they contacted me, we didn't want to suggest calling any particular Agency, since they weren't aware of him being missing as of yet.
UPDATE #2:
Joe,
Trooper Keidel just called me.
David is officially listed as a missing person now.
He is not at any local hospital.
Anyone with any info should contact:
Maryland State Police at 410-749-3101
Thank you so much.
Bonnie
18 comments:
saw him walking on rt 13 just the other day... never saw him after that, and we were freaked out when we did see him, things did NOT look right or normal... obviously our prejudice's were correct
Ms.Lavish,
I hope and pray for you he is located.Having dealt with a loved one with BPD I understand and sometimes when they go off meds they get confused.Alot of people are looking for him.
It doesnt matter about calling a particular agency, if he was in the Pines, then Ocean Pines Police would handle the initial and turn it over to Wor Co Bur Of Inv. If he was on 589 it would be Worc Co Sheriff dept and they would also turn it over to WCBI. If he was in Ocean City, then Ocean City would handle it. Whoever, good luck with finding the lost one and we will pray for a safe return.
Can't be sure but he sure does look like the gentleman I saw today around noon sitting in the Medium of Route 50 in Salisbury just under the bypass. (Near Kmart)He caught my eye since he was sitting near the East bound side but facing away and I thought how was he going to get a ride if he wasn't facing traffic. He had a red bag with him.
I know Dave, and it is important that it be known that he is also a drug addict. He had been staying with his father in Hebron, but complained to my family that he didn't like it there because he didn't want to have to walk to his NA meetings in Salisbury, but then he told them he walked to Ocean City to get his drugs, so he is using again. He was recently staying at a Christian shelter in Salisbury but was told to leave when he refused to do his part in the chores assigned to him.
Dave is tall and has longish blonde hair; I believe him to be harmless to anyone but himself. He's a good guy underneath it all, but I do believe he needs to be institutionalized until he is ready to take responsibility for himself. He told my family that instead of "tough love," he needs "real love," which in reality is enablement.
Dave, wherever you are, we love you and want to see you well again. Our prayers are with you and your family.
is it me or is that photo REALLY photoshopped? Also, the Citco in/near Ocean pines is no longer a Citco. It is/was actually outside of OP on 589, so it would not be OP police dept to respond.
it doesn't sound like he is missing at all. sounds like he just left home of his own accord. you said he called you and when you went to pick him up he wasn't there. that's misleading. it sounds like he called to let you know he was fine or maybe to ask a favor and you went against his wishes and tried to go get him. OF COURSE HE WASNT THERE. Anyway, let this one go. The guy has chosen his path and will choose a new one when he wants to.
I think this article and calling the police etc. are just so that you can feel as if you are good parents. yet, it is probably bad parenting that led to this situation. calling the police is going to make him NOT want to come home. but secretly you may know that.
anyway, just my 2cents.
He has a court date for Destruction of Property 1/12/2009. Still only a danger to himself?
I have known Dave for about 4 years now. As for him choosing to take his own path. Sure that may work for some unless you know Dave. He is quite unstable and is some serious need of help.
I can tell you the last time I know of any confirmed sighting of Dave. After the phone call he made to family he was later seen by a few members of a local recovery fellowship. He was walking toward Salisbury. They picked him up and took him to a meeting in Salisbury. They were then going to go to a meeting in Cambridge. Dave asked if he could go with them. They took him to the meeting. At about 8:40 pm Christmas evening he walked out of the meeting and that was the last they saw of him. I am not mentioning names due to the anonymity of the fellowship. I can tell you hoever that at least one of the people who last saw him is contacting the MSP.
From my understanding he was not in a very good state of mind.
Lastly as for questioning whether he is a danger to others...yes he does have a court date in which from my understanding was a result of a family dispute.For him to physically harm others I sincerely doubt that, However out of caution and knowing that he is unstable I would be hesitant to approach him if you do not know him.
he has convictions for domestic violence, 2nd degree assualt, another destruction of property and a protection order was filed against him all between 2005 and now. You don't think he's a threat to others? The news needs to let people know he is roaming around and is a potential threat.
The domestic violence case was from July of this year. This is what the court ruled:
COURT ORDERS:
SHALL NOT ABUSE
SHALL NOT CONTACT
SHALL NOT ENTER RESIDENCE
RESPONDENT SHALL VACATE THE HOME
SURRENDER FIREARMS
notice the surrender firearms!!! If this guy is so unstable, what is he doing with firearms?
How tall is he???
Allow me to restate, then: Dave is harmless to those who know him. I was unaware of his criminal record, but BPD combined with attempted self-medication with illegal drugs can do that to a person. And, Anonymous 11:55, BPD has nothing to do with bad parenting. Your 2 cents' worth isn't even worth the two cents. I can't believe Joe let your comment through. You are an insensitive jerk.
No, I don't think he decided to choose a new path. He is ill and is using drugs for which he obviously cannot pay. The repercussions of that can be deadly, and I am very frightened for him, as is my family. (1:07 PM is my daughter.)
The Dave I know, when he is not as unstable as he is right now, is a lost soul looking for, and living for, love.
Dave has also told us that he recently found out that he has an inoperable brain tumor. I don't know whether that is true, but if it is, it can only be exacerbating the situation. The last time I spoke to him, I mentioned the tumor, and he visibly paled and flinched, so I think it's true.
doug wilkerson, I would guess he's around six feet. And 11:25 AM, wtf cares whether the picture was photoshopped? It's Dave, all right, but the photo was obviously taken when he was in better health.
I'm one of the people he turns to when he needs someone to talk to. I was not home when he left a message on my phone Christmas Eve, but he was obviously depressed and rambling. I'm really rattled, and I can only imagine the torture his mother is going through. My heart goes out to her and her family. I will certainly contact Joe and/or the MSP if I hear from him.
Why did this person contact you instead of the authorities? What can you do besides send out a plea to people who can do little to help? People get a life, call the police.
Trooper Kiedel should have checked Dorchester general in Cambridge it sounds like.
Or isn't that local?
amogeWhy would he contact the authorities? He wasn't missing yet when he called my house. He was looking for a place to stay.
And Trooper Kiedel canot be blamed for not checking Dorchester County hospitals when the information he had at the time placed Dave in Worcester County.
You people are so quick to criticize situations when you don't have enough information to do so. Where are your hearts? Learn about BPD; it is the result of a chemical imbalance in the brain, not "bad parenting." And you people don't know Dave, or the actual circumstances of his record. My family and I do.
It is not unusual for people with mental illnesses to attempt self-medication with illegal drugs, and drug addiction is an illness in and of itself. Yes, I am defending Dave---the Dave that I know, and the Dave you people DON'T know. He needs help, not your negative comments; his parents absolutely do not deserve Anonymous Coward 11:55 AM's remarks.
Anyway, I am so grateful that he is safe. I just hope that he gets the help he needs, and for a long enough period of time for him to be able to assume responsibility for himself and to own his illness. I'm sure his parents are sleeping a little easier tonight.
I do not know Dave nor am I making excuses for his criminal activities but unless you or someone you love has has been touched by BPD, you have no clue as to what an ordeal it can be and what havoc it can wreak upon ones self and their family. Medications work, but they have side effects that drive some patients to stop taking them. Some either attempt to counter side effects of meds by drinking or using illegal drugs or forgo prescribed medication therapy altogether.No one "chooses" to have this disease.
the facts in this case were totally misconceptions david dint live with his dad and was homless when he call to speak to his gramma .after the call he left and when he found out he was supossedly missing he was like where exactly am i miss from lol .he has had enuff of other slandering him about dangerousness or the like and wants his family to simply leave him be
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