OCEAN CITY — A recent doctor’s visit for a local mother and her teenage daughter took what the mom felt was an inappropriate and explicit turn, raising questions about suitable communication between doctors and their young patients.
Ocean Pines resident Amanda Lanier says she decided to visit a new doctor last week in order to get her 13-year-old daughter the Meningitis vaccination because, based on her insurance, she would’ve had to pay more than $200 out of pocket at her primary care physician’s practice.
So, she went to Atlantic General Primary Care in West Ocean City and met with a female doctor.
“She was nice at first, and tried to calm my daughter down because she is not a fan at all of going to the doctor’s office,” said Lanier, “and she is even less of a fan of shots.”
Yet, Lanier says that when the conversation steered toward teen issues, things quickly went south.
“She said to my daughter, I want to talk to you about things kids are doing at your age,” said Lanier. “She went on to tell her about drugs, and then she started asking her if kids were doing dares in her school.”
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I wish she was a doctor when my kids were young.I realize that a lot of comments will most likely condemn her approach,but kids desperately need this,ESPECIALLY when the parents'won't talk to them.
ReplyDeleteIf parents actually talk to their teens about sex and drugs, then doctors would not need to. Ignoring it and praying doesn't work. Teens experiment and have sex. "More than one-third (35%) of all high school students reported being sexually active (they had sex in the previous three months). Thirty-six percent of girls and 34% of boys reported being sexually active."
ReplyDeleteBack when I was in middle/high school everyone I knew lied whenever we got those tests. Accordibg to those questionnaires we were FORCED to fill out, I was having sex more than 15 times a week, lost my virginity when i was 12, did drugs 10 times a day and was drunk every night. In reality I was a virgin till I was 17 and didn't try pot and alcohol till I was a freshman in college. Never believe those statistics.
DeleteStop lying now you were honest then.
DeleteShe must be a liberal probably without kids with a superiority complex and feels she should have the right to raise your child as she sees fit.
ReplyDeleteGreat story but didn't mention the Dr. If one objects to this, shouldn't you know who NOT to go to? Why protect this Dr? We need "the rest of the story"!
ReplyDeleteYou don't even no if it's true or a hoax for money. Now you want to shut down the business? Moron.
DeletePlease give me a break. You have a teenager and I am sure she has heard worse in school and on social media. If you were so offended for you and your daughter why didn't you say so to the doctor right then and there? Instead you get on social media and emailed the doctor's employer?
ReplyDeleteThat's horrific!!!!! I feel so sorry for child and the mother. If ever this happens to anyone.. get up and walk out immediately!!!! I'm actually traumatized for that family!
ReplyDeleteGive me a break why are YOU traumatized for the family?
DeleteThey also ask about guns in the house among other information the government wants to know.
ReplyDeletea friend took her young son to see a local dr about an issue. after talking a bit about the problem and doing an exam the dr said, "now son, i'm going to need to take a look at your naughty bits"
ReplyDeletein a time when we stress that children use the correct terminology, some of our doctors are using terms like "naughty bits", which sounds gross . period
Sounds like somebody is living in a world of their own. Welcome to the "real" world. Thirteen is well past the age to get pregnant and/or, if not properly supervised, get into LOTS of problems.
ReplyDeleteVery unprofessional. The child comes in for a shot and the doctor starts talking about oral sex. Inappropriate.
ReplyDeleteIt is our government at its finest. They ask these probing questions to get info to the government on houses with guns etc
ReplyDeleteAnd now you and your daughter have both names and address in nationwide social media. Be a proud of how you have set her up for the wrong way for the rest of her life.
ReplyDeleteWorld wide. The kid is already getting picked up from what I hear.
Delete" I want to make sure that this doctor doesn’t blindside some parent and kid again with no warning with that kind of vulgarity. I want someone to tell me that she won’t be allowed to speak to teen patients this way ever again.”
ReplyDeleteLOL!!Is this mother so naive that she thinks her daughter doesnt know about sex? I am sure by know all 13 year olds, male and female have heard the term blow job. Yet I do not think the Dr even used those words... just oral sex. This Dr may have actually enlightened both the mother and daughter about sex and what to do to be safe... I say kudos to the Dr!!
Jim, we don't know if any of the story is true. I heard the mom has a history lying. Poor daughter. In 30 years her she can show her kids what her mom put her through on social media.
DeleteI'm a doc.., this is why I never bring up personal stuff...and exactly why I could care less if a patient brings it up.
ReplyDeleteCan you write me a script?
Deleteit doesn't matter if the teen knows about sex or not. the issue is appropriate speech. if the teen were to bring up questions that needed an answer like this that would probably be fine. but to volunteer such information without being prompted is out of line.
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ReplyDeleteYour statement indicates you are not in the profession
Also disturbing, is that this educated doctor was advising the girl about nothing more than a disgusting urban legend.
ReplyDeleteThe so-called "rainbow parties" have long since been debunked as scare stories, and nobody has ever been found who had actually been to one, themselves. Maybe "a friend of my daughter" or someone who told them it was true. But despite this myth being traced back and fact-checked, it continues to persist.
That story has been going around for at least 25 years, and is about as credible as the one about spider eggs being found in bubble gum.
That doctor needs to be a bit less gullible, and stick to facts at hand.
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ReplyDeleteWho defines inappropriate speech? You are not the standard bearer for determining what is appropriate or not.
If parents would discuss human sexuality with their kids, than this would not be an issue.
The Dispatch should of declined to entertain the parent. This is a personal issue. What's next, publishing overheard private conversations. POOR JUDGEMENT
ReplyDeleteI want someone to tell me that she won’t be allowed to speak to teen patients this way ever again.”
ReplyDeleteTo the parent-- what happened to free speech. Typical liberal thought process.
How do you know this even happened? Just because you hear one part of the story? Now the mother has put her own daughter through more embarrassment. Every kid in her school will hear about this due to the fact it's on the mothers FakeBook.
DeleteIf this was true it would be handled QUIELTY through attorneys NOT on social media. Smh! It makes me sick how the mother is parading her daughter on social media.
DeleteDidn't the family do exactly what they were condemning the doctor for by sharing this on social media? Except rather than in a frank one-on-one conversation, they exposed scores of people of any age to the subject?
ReplyDeleteI heard the mother is looking for another pay day and has a history of bs. Primary care refused to see the daughter because the mother is a nut.
ReplyDeleteI agree. I know her and she is. A. Nut.
DeleteHer first mistake was going to a doctor her daughter was not familiar and comfortable with....
ReplyDeleteStrange doctor aside,this mother is overreacting a tad.There are way too many girls out there having babies too young,as young as 11 yrs old! It's not even scandalous anymore,its kind of accepted,which is sickening.Girls need to be educated about sex EARLY,before they are pressured into something they can't handle.If the parents refuse to educate them,the doctor has the responsibility to do so.
Kudos to the Doctor. Grow up lady. I can say I have heard of this prank. I hope the Dr. keeps up the great advice. Don't call anymore employers lady. You might find what goes around comes around.
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