7 Mistakes Women Make With Men

Women are complicated because they have a layer of logic, but laid across that is a mood, and then on top of that is a fluctuating steam of emotions. If men are like playing checkers, then women are like playing chess, but the pieces are all kittens hopped up on catnip with broken glass taped to their paws. This is why it’s so puzzling to hear my female friends tell me they don’t understand men. This is like a rocket scientist telling you she can’t figure out how a flush toilet works. Men are fairly simple; so how can we be so non-intuitive to such comparatively complex creatures? How can women not already know these things?

1) Be very careful about sleeping with a guy too early on. Setting aside moral concerns for the moment, let’s talk about when a woman should have sex with a man she views as long-term relationship material. There’s actually no wrong answer per se. If the guy is really clicking well enough with you, he’s probably going to stick around regardless of whether it happens on the first date or your wedding day.

However, women should understand that after just 3-4 dates, they probably don’t really have much of an idea of what’s going on in a guy’s head. He may be a player who’s saying what you want to hear in hopes of getting laid. Alternately, he may be perfectly sincere, but he’s just a lot more on the fence than you realize because he’s weighing the fact that he thinks you’re really hot and sweet to him against the fact that when you yelled at him last week, it reminded him of how things got before the end with his ex-girlfriend — and he’s bored to death with you monotonously reciting to him what you did today. Of course, he’s probably not going to come out and just say that and after just a few dates, you won’t know him well enough to know something’s wrong.

So, if he flees the relationship like you just contracted Ebola after you sleep with him and that’s going to upset you, well then, you should probably wait a little longer to make sure he intends to hang around. It’s also worth keeping in mind that to you, going out with a man three times, sleeping with him, and never hearing from him again may be a disaster, but to him it’s probably going to be viewed as a win. Not saying anyone’s right or anyone’s wrong with that approach, just noting there’s a big mentality difference.

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