My first bit of advice for a person who wants to date after a divorce is: don't. At least not initially, and certainly not before the ink on the divorce decree is dry. Unless, of course, you want to replay the misery that created the divorce in the first place.
I know that the urge to get back in the game is strong, but it's probably not why you might think. It's not because people are meant to be in relationships, although we are; it's much more complicated that just that.
Amen. I could never figure out why everyone rushes to get back into what they just got out. Comfort zone maybe but a bad mistake as you carry the issues from the divorced relationship into the next unless you have given yourself time to distinquish what to really want and need or do not want and need.
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