What Do You Think Is An Appropriate Age To Get Married?
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I have read studies that show the later you wait to marry (such as 26 compared to 18), the better the chance that the marriage will succeed. Given my personal experience (I'm 57) and what I have read and seen over the years, I think 25 and over are the best years.
ReplyDeleteMy wife and I were married at 18 will be celebrating our 24th anniversary this June.
ReplyDeleteAnd folks said it wouldn't last....
Never, it only for the reason of taxation and insurance now days anyway. Not to mention the attorney scam to get out of the damn thing.
ReplyDeletethere's no "right" age to get married. I think that's up to the individuals to decide. Some people are so immature that they should NEVER get married... much less reproduce (we saw an example of that with yesterdays post from the Delmar lunatic)
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ReplyDeleteI'm with tedh! Maybe 110 or so!
ReplyDeleteI think mid 20's is good, you have time to grow up a little. Although I waited until my late 30's and I don't regret that either. He was worth waiting for!
ReplyDeleteWhen your old enough to understand what marriage and life is about.
ReplyDeleteA persons age shouldn't be the reason for getting married. The amount of time with the partner is more important. In order for a marriage to succeed you must know one another, good and bad. My husband and I have been together for 13 years and married for 6 of those years.
ReplyDeleteAnother thing is learning to conquer obstacles together. We've been through a lot. If it weren't for working together we would have never made it this long!
My hubby got married at 24. It worked for us. We had our 29th. anniversary last month.
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ReplyDeleteWhen you both have sowed your wild oats, have gotten whatever education that you both want, have jobs, have a place to live, have respect for each other, LIKE each other (not just love each other) and have a clue that marriage is 50/50 (it ain't all about just one of you).
ReplyDeleteWhich marriage? 1st,2nd,3rd?
ReplyDeleteit's not about what age...all people mature differently.
ReplyDeletethe questions should read:
"How long should a couple be dating before marriage?"
"Should they live together first?"
"Should they go through marriage counseling beforehand?"
At least 21 so you can drink just enough on your wedding day to realy think the thing threw.
ReplyDeleteWow! To many variables. To hard to give a definite answer. I think many people today get married just to be married and think it will fix a relationship.
ReplyDeleteI got married at 26 and my wife was 24. It has now been 8 years but we dated for 11 years.
Why buy the cow when the milk is free?
ReplyDeleteMy hubby was 19 and I was 20 when we married, 35 years ago.
ReplyDelete400 yrs old. thanks sjd
ReplyDeleteI don't think the age is as important is as how long you have shared your life together. Personal opinion is a least 4 years of dating with perhaps 2 of those years living in sin together.
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ReplyDeleteI couldnt tell you, Im 45 & The wife is 59. Wouldnt of made anything of myself with-out her. We were married 25 years ago.
ReplyDelete30 years old. Most at that age have found their careers and has played enough when they were younger and now just want to relax. Some get fat and can't get anyone. Some get health issues so they need someone to take care of them. 30 is the age.
ReplyDeleteNEVER...
ReplyDeleteAge is not the true issue, if the couple is mature enough. Do they truely understand all that is required to bring and share in the marriage. To answer the question with a number though....25.
ReplyDeleteAfter 30 years of a lopsided marriage, where I upheld my end of my promises and my wife got what she wanted; I have received nothing that has made any of it "worth it". I would not recommend marriage at any age. The is just no value in it, to a man. Women are the only ones who get a return on marriage. Marriage is a legal document that favors one party over the other. In retrospect, I would never have done it, knowing what I know now. Very few people, that I know, are "happily" married, except in the first few years. There is no good, or best, age for marriage; except when you are ready to give up long term happiness for short term infatuation. Want to be happy? Live together, love together, raise kids, do everything together. but leave marriage (the legality) out of it.
ReplyDeleteI'm 28 and cant even IMAGINE being married anytime in the next 10 years. I would say 40 would be a good jumping off point.
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11:59, your an idiot. lets just put that out there.. ALOT of men are VERY HAPPY with their marriage, its not a waste to EVERYONE. and i have been told my whole life that people dont really "grow a brain" until they are 24, so im thinking that a good age, The maturity level is higher, the partying bar stage is over, and most people are done with education by then. Sounds good to me!
ReplyDeleteAnon. 11:59 I'm sorry you had a bad experience that left you bitter. If you marry your best friend it's a great way of life. I would say the best age is 23-25.
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ReplyDeleteGuys 11:59 is not that far off even though venting a bad experience. Like I said above the only reason to get married now days is for a tax write-off or insurance. What changes the fact of loving and being with that person. A silly piece of paper doesn't do that.
ReplyDeleteLet it go Ted.
ReplyDeleteHey brother I have never been happier and have a good loving woman in my life. Marriage is not in the cards because it will not change a thing in my relationship. It really is that simple.
ReplyDeleteMy grandparents were married when they were 17 and celebrated their 60th wedding anniversary a few years ago.
ReplyDeleteI'm actually getting married next Saturday. My fiancée is 22 and I'm 26. We have graduated college and established great jobs. We are both very mature for our age. We have been together for 5 years and lived together for 2 years.
I would say it depends on how long you have been together AND lived together.
Tedh...smart man, I'm 11:59, I rest my case.
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ReplyDeleteCan't get it up huh?
25-28
As for the 12:29 moron, read my comments before you try to respond to my opinion. I didn't say nobody is happily married and I didn't say it is a waste for everybody. It sounds like maybe you're not at the magical age of 24, perhaps your brain is not "there" yet. Your comments lead me to believe you are not married and can't really opine on what you think is the correct age. I'm SURE you will consider yourself lucky when (if) you do get married. LOL
ReplyDeleteNEVER EVER EVER!Wow what a pain in the behind!!!!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteWhen you commit to major responsibilities, ups and downs , sex not so often, little or no money available and a bunch of screaming youngens. Then you can tie that knot. Oh , by the way don't say you do if your not really sure, cause it will cost you a hell of alot more to get out of it !!!
ReplyDeletewell 4:08, I am married, have been for many years, 27 to be exact! happiest years of my life & my husbands, he is probably just a better man than you- you are most likely too selfish to contribute to the marriage, therefore you are unhappy. no one cares.
ReplyDelete25+
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ReplyDelete75 seems reasonable.
ReplyDeletemy ma got married and pregnant at 15
ReplyDelete(and yes, were white)
Isn't it more about mental age than physical age? Some men (and women) are never mature enough to sustain a relationship. They are too worried about keeping up their image, afraid to grow old, or show commitment (that is for the p%ssy-whipped in their minds) and admit they care about and need someone (also a weakness). Those people should NEVER marry because they are never mature enough to get what a good marriage is all about.
ReplyDeleteBeen there done that with an arrested adolescent.
Marriage is like anything else: you get out of it what you put into it.
ReplyDeleteProper age to get married? Not anything specific but the comments about maturity and marrying your best friend are right on.
Maturity has no age barriers. When you can fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup AND stand together, yet not too near together for the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.
ReplyDeleteI got married at 25. Been married for over 21 years. I think by that age most people have got some of the wildness out of their system, and are emotionally and financially ready to settle down.
ReplyDelete45 or 50. that way, only half your life is ruined.
ReplyDelete30-and have kids even later
ReplyDelete25 at least with the maturity and respnsability of this generation
ReplyDelete4:43 You self rightous b*tch. You have no clue. As you could be a judge of a "better man". You apparently feel like you can speak for that p*ssy-whipped husband of yours. # of years of marriage is not an indicator of success. At some point it justs becomes a contest to see who can outlast the other.
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ReplyDeleteIt sounds like you are in the anger stage of mourning. I am hoping that you get past it. There are singles again groups that can help you. they say it takes a third of the time that you were married to get past it. So that puts you at 10 years.
my father always said he got married at 36... and in his opinion that was to dam# young...
ReplyDelete9:35 - Maybe it is because you made your marriage "a contest" and think men who are good to their wives are "p#ssy whipped" that you've ended up a bitter old man.
ReplyDeleteMen like you are easy to spot - think they are cool and above it all - but really are miserable and lonely - no matter who they are with. Bet your new woman (and oh, yeah, men like you HAVE to be with someone to wait on them) can't hold a candle to what you had.
Best wishes to the woman who got away from your sorry butt. It was her Independence Day!
The textbook age for marriage is 114, by then it just won't matter what she does to the poor man.
ReplyDeleteWhew, sure are alot of people who THINK they know about what makes someone tick. Typical bigoted, self-rightous know-it-alls! Without knowing any of the facts behind statements and opinions, they sure think they know everything. It's always interesting to watch the responses when someone expresses an opinion that differs from their pre-conceived notion of the world.
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ReplyDeleteSounds like you think YOU have all the answers. Maybe you are the one with pre-conceived notions.
Appears you are the "typical bigoted, self-rightous know-it-all" - and an intolerant one at that!
Maybe some of these comments were a little close for comfort!