We watched a funny movie this morning called failure to lauch . It's about a middle aged retired couple who hire a woman (Sara jessica Parker) to get their35 year old son to leave home (Matthew McConnahey).
We just got our kids out this last month. I never thought it was going to happen, but it did. Their Dad told me I cant' do anything with their rooms yet, just in case they come back. But i'm really hoping its true.
I love them and miss them a lot, but I don't miss the drama and bickering.
Do you have an adult child at home? And what will be the age that you say 'You gotta go'!
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While those kids are gone, you must revamp their "rooms" to prevent an easy return. Make one of them a storage room, removing the furniture, etc. Turn the other one into an office.
ReplyDeleteOnce you have ensured that they are not homing pigeons, you might want to make one of those rooms a "guest" room -- with the stipulation that 3 days would be the maximum stay at any one time.
You know what they say about houseguests and fish --- after 3 days they both begin to stink.
No, but I know of a couple whose daughter is in her 40's and she LIVES at home. She works full time job, owns her car - AND still lives at home. This is too weird! They even run their schedule around HER! No way - when my son reaches 18 I expect him to leave the "nest" and get out on his own to see how the REAL word really is.
ReplyDeleteanon 8:00 My last son left home 2 months ago. He was 26 yrs old. Bought his own place. We thought he would never leave.Now the old home place is even more silent.Good luck to all and be patience.The younger generation is a different breed than we were.
ReplyDeleteEasier said then done!! LOL!
ReplyDeletewest moves east...In California when a 35 yo commits a crime, they send him back home and in some cases hold parents responsible for actions of their 35 yo children.UGH!!!
ReplyDeleteThese actions need to remain within Ca.'s 9th "circus" courts. Hopefully, other states will block this kind of legislature.
If they are over 20 , throw the butts out on the street.If you
ReplyDeletelet them stay , you are hurting them . They need to gain some responsiblity . If they are over 30
then you are screwed . They will
take everything you have . By
then you won't have much anyway .
At that time , you should be the one who is thrown out on the street!
My son is 20 yo and has a good job but the pay is not enough to support him to move out. He pays his own truck payment, insurance and gas. By the time he does that there is hardly no money left for him to pay rent and utilities. I guess he will be here a few more years until he can afford to get a place or higher pay. I would rather him stay home then get out there an fail and then come back home.
ReplyDeleteSo what happened to the old school way of having multigenerational households.
ReplyDeleteFamilies living and working together to build the communal wealth that goes to take care of all family members.
Many immigrants live this way and they don't go without much.
They have built in babysitters for their children that love them, and wisdom is passed down, and their is higher accountability.
American families did this in the early part of the last century because times were tough, but after WWII and widespread ownership of cars we have moved from that.
Do you think that with financial hardships that many American families are facing now with the foreclosure crises that this will become a new trend?
anon 10:02
ReplyDelete20 year olds can gain responsibility without throwing them out. Boy I would hate to have to live at your house!!!
One of our daughters lived with us with her little one till she got a job out-of-state. I thought I'd die from heartache when they moved. They are back in the area. At this point I can't ever see her living here with the kids, but I can see myself living with her. LOL
ReplyDeleteI like the idea of the mulitgenerational family. It might come in handy some time.
Anon 10:02 and Anon 10:09, AMEN!!!!
ReplyDeleteSo what happened to the old school way of having multigenerational households.
ReplyDeleteNo worries, it's still going strong at my house. Most times I wish it wasn't. Although, I see the way times are changing back to the way it was when households were multigenerational. What do you do, throw your grandkids out on the street? Its not in me to see kids go without. Their parents is another story.
Our 22 yr old just moved back. It is wonderful to see his smiling face again each day. We are very close and the past couple of years have been lonely without him. He can stay as long as he needs to but has to pick up his own bills, car insurance, etc. Our house is big and we don't run over each other all of the time. Plus it is nice to have an extra pair of hands.
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